Guy leaving next meeting to 'chance'
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| Sat, 07-30-2005 - 9:46am |
Hi there,
I met an guy in a bar last night (a nice upscale bar, not one of the meet market types) and we chatted for close to an hour. We had all sorts of things in common and I was thinking I'd definitely like to see him again But knowing it's a guy's world out there, I was waiting to see if he would ask for my number. I decided I'd leave before he did, so I said I had to go. He said, "so how will I ever see you again" and asked if I had a card because he didn't have any. I looked, but unfortunately didn't have any with me. Then he said something like, "well we go to the same places, I'll see you again." and I shook his hand and left.
I thought it was strange that he didn't ask to take my number in his cell phone or ask for a pen or something. I didn't want to press the issue and act too interested so I didn't go get a pen from the bartender. Is this wierd? I think it's a bit strange to leave meeting up again to 'serendipity'... in all likelihood we probably will cross paths again as it's not a huge city but it could be months...
just wanted some insight. I'm trying really hard to stop being the aggressor in relationships so sitting back and waiting but this seemed a bit strange.

That is strange. He asked for a business card, but when you don't have one (the quick and easy solution), he doesn't want to ask the bartender for a pen (a more involved solution) or program your number into his cell (an even more involved solution - especially if he's drunk).
Maybe he was scoping out several girls at the bar at once. Most of my guy friends (roomate) included admit to doing that. Slipping him a business card would have been a 30 second task. Should he risk fiddling with his cell or tracking down a pen and his name could be mud at that establishment. If he is a regular there, he will not risk that!
OTOH, maybe he is just plain lazy. And what kind of date would be be? If getting your number is such an ordeal, making Saturday night plans will be a monumental task.