Is this guy into me? I can't tell...

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Registered: 11-08-2005
Is this guy into me? I can't tell...
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Thu, 01-05-2006 - 7:01pm
A personal trainer at my gym hit on me a while back ago and asked me if I wanted to go out and eat. I replied with a friendly no and said I had plans later to go and eat with someone else. He replied with ok...and he told me that he'd see me around and that was it. I took this guy as kinda cocky cuz he easily approached me at the gym. The next day I see him again at the gym...I am at a cardio machine and he passes by and flicks my ear with his finger. I laugh it off, although I found it pretty immature of him. After I am done on the cardio machine and he is done personal training a client of his, he approaches me and we begin talking and he asks me what I'm doing over the weekend. Casual talk...a bit annoying in his part though. I had been soo tired from just coming out of a cardio machine for one full hour that I could bearly talk right...as a matter of fact I was falling asleep. He then asks me, "Are you always like this?" and I reply, "what?" and he then replies, "always like this, like your about to fall assleep" and I reply "I'm really tired and I'm a pretty mellow person to begin with." and then he replies, "Is it because your shy?" and I reply "no...I'm just mellow like I said." He then gives me a funny look and states, "you think I'm mean huh?" I found him pretty annoying by this moment. So I told him, "Look I'm working out and I'm busy" And he states, "Ok then, I guess I will leave now since you don't like me." and he gets up from the machine next to me and begins to kill time by working on duty (like he's supposed to). So we go our seperate ways and leave it at that. After I finished, I walk out of the gym and we both wave goodbye and that was it. I got really sick for a whole month so I didn't go to the gym. I recently went back three days ago where I see him, but it had been a while and we didn't make eye contact, we just pretended to be strangers. Then today, I notice he's looking at me from a distance while he's working out so I pass by and flash him a smile and a hello, he replies with a simple hi as well...nothing to it. I then figure by this point he's probably not interested in me. But about the middle to my workout we pass right next to each other and we both kinda smile at each other and I couldn't help but slap him in his arm...I know it was childish but I wanted to see his reaction. He then goes, "what was that for?" and reply, "your flabby buddy" and he goes, "Yeah well thats why I'm working out". and I go ok...and we have a casual conversation from there, he asks me what I'm doing after the gym and I tell him I got to apply at several places and he replies to apply at the gym...and I state that I might. Anyway before I go on and on, the last thing he says is "are you coming tommorow?" and I reply, "yeah, I'll be here" he then states, "ok then I will see you tommorow" and that was it...I can't tell if he's even attracted to me because he hasn't asked me for my phone number or anything. I don't know, but I really can't tell. I guess I will assume he's not into me. Just curious I guess. Anyway, tell me what you think...
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Thu, 01-05-2006 - 11:15pm

Hi Adriana and welcome to the board!


Ok, explain something to me... it sounds like you're not into him, so why are you worried if he's into you? Sounds like he's been flirting but hasn't gotten anything back. So why worry about if he's into you or not? If you don't like him, then leave him be..

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Registered: 06-13-2003
Thu, 01-05-2006 - 11:19pm
I don't understand why you think he wasn't into you - he asked you out - why would he ask you out if he wasn't interested? You said no and he kept trying to be flirty but then you disappeared. He seems a bit immature - I'm guessing under 25? In any case I'm pretty sure he wants to go out with you but for what I have no idea - he might want sex - you can't judge that unless you get to know him and go out with him. If you keep seeing him he will ask you out again I'm sure. The game seems to be working for him though because at first you thought he was annoying and now his game playing is working on you isn't it!? : )
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Registered: 11-08-2005
Thu, 01-05-2006 - 11:32pm
Thanx you two...well, for the game part. I really don't care if his stragedy is to get me in bed or not. I am not into serious relationships anyway so it's all good :) Which means, my heart won't be broken because I don't want to take this one guy seriously and I am not planning to sleep with him...he's a fun person and we're only 21 so no worries there.
Anyway,Thank you!!!
Love
Adriana
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Fri, 01-06-2006 - 9:43am
At first you find him annoying but now you are asking whether he is into you or not. I believe you have already rejected him. Are you thinking about going out with him or do you just like the attention?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 01-06-2006 - 1:48pm
Your game is pretty easy to figure out. You want the attention yet are not willing to offer an opportunity. Unless he is a player, his interest in you will fade very quickly. Decent guys will refuse to get sucked in to your charade.
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Registered: 11-08-2005
Fri, 01-06-2006 - 4:53pm
LOL!!! My game? I'm not playing a game. I think this guy is very cocky and has plenty of women, he most likely has sex when he wants it. I just don't want to give him more of that "cocky" energy by sleeping with him too. I like him a lot but I don't know about the sleeping together part. I guess I am a lot like a dude too. I don't take men seriously and I am very straight foward. I get what I want when I want it type of girl. And I ain't sensitive little "relationship" girl either. I never let my heart rule me, only my brain. So there is no game in this part. I just wanna have a good time, meet guys have fun. Don't really care about anything but fun. I was wondering at first if he was attracted to me or not cuz I couldn't tell, but that parts all over with. Ok well, just wanted to clarify this.
Bye bye.