Guy not making the moves at all
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| Fri, 06-18-2004 - 10:07am |
I've been dating a guy for a couple of weeks, but we've known each other for about 4 months. Things got pretty awkward every time we saw each other so I finally kissed him to break it. The next time I saw him I left it to him, but he didn't kiss me??? He just stood by the car staring at me... The NEXT time I felt so awkward I talked to him about it and he said he is shy. Anyway, things seem to have gotten less awkward but I'm getting 'tired'.... I feel like I'm the one having to make all the moves. We've spent the night together twice, but he doesn't do anything to romance me. Neither of us has gone 'below the belt'... I'm starting to feel wierd about it. How can a guy lie naked next to a girl he supposedly likes and do nothing? I know everyone says a slow-moving guy is a nice change, but I'm starting to feel pressured because I feel like everything is left to me. I'm also struggling because I'm 'on the fence'. I'm not passionately attracted to him.. i wish I was but I'm not, so me having to make the moves concerns me that I'll be leading him on. Hmm... anyone have any experiences like this to draw on?

I don't understand why you are pressing him to get physical with you... spending the night with him, naked, making him kiss you
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If you like spending time with him, continue to do so--perhaps as friends. Just be sure that you're not looking for passion that isn't there and be honest with yourself and him about what you want.
On a more positive note, if he's interested in you (and it appears that he is), other guys will be interested in you and attracted to you.
Good luck.
Bex