guy with a record?!

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Registered: 04-04-2003
guy with a record?!
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Tue, 08-30-2005 - 8:43pm

I have been planning on meeting someone I met online this weekend, however I just got his full name and did a quick criminal record search and found he was charged with battery and disorderly conduct.... in a domestic case.... a year ago. The battery was dismissed, disorderly conduct he plead guilty to. I don't know the details of the case.

It is right for me to blow him off completely now that I know this? I don't know the details and I feel like I should before I blow off someone who might be harmless.

ANy ideas?

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Registered: 10-16-2003
Wed, 08-31-2005 - 3:08pm

Frankly, I don't know the answer seya79. I don't want to say-yes go meet him..and put you in harm's way, and at the same time, it is also possible that it's not what it looks like and he is a good guy or has learned from his mistakes etc. What does your instinct say? If you have this "fear" inside of you, then don't go. It is going to cloud everything even after you meet him. You wouldn't be able to shake this off. And how would he take it if you revealed to him that you did a background check on him. Things will be highly uncomfortable perhaps. Unless, you both have an honest talk about everything without pointing fingers. Think twice. Is this really needed?

Btw, mind sharing where you got this information? Was it a paid site?

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Wed, 08-31-2005 - 3:15pm
You don' tknow this guy, there's no attachment. Why borrow trouble? Don't get together
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Registered: 04-04-2003
Wed, 08-31-2005 - 5:26pm

lftlgirl,

I live in wisconsin and the state circuit court records are available to the public, free, online. It comes in quite handy, now I am beginning to find!

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 08-31-2005 - 6:11pm
seya79, you don't know this guy and do not owe him anything. If you are not comfortable meeting him now that you know this, then don't meet him. It is true that you do not know the circumstances but regardless, it "sounds" like he got drunk, stoned or in some other way out of control and beligerent and someone felt threatened enough to call the police. It shows a violent tendency which you don't need to deal with. Be glad you found out now when there is no attachment and obligation and you can just disappear.

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Registered: 10-16-2003
Wed, 08-31-2005 - 7:01pm

Wow that's pretty good. I don't mind having this tool myself.
It's great you thought of checking it out. Information is power.

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Wed, 08-31-2005 - 11:04pm
Don't meet this guy. He could be trouble, so why take the risk and find out the hard way?

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