guys and dating

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Registered: 02-04-2004
guys and dating
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Sat, 10-16-2004 - 10:37am
i rarely post on here b/c i often know the answer to 'why isnt he calling me' posts and so on but i have a question (hopefully wont get harped on for this)

i've been talking to this guy for a couple months (4-5-6) and we FINALLY went out on a 'date' 2 weeks ago. he's been bugging me to go out w/ him since we first started talking but i was seeing someone, he was seeing someone, i was busy working, i actually intentionally blew him off quite a few times but he kept persisting. so finally one night i was fed up and decided to go out w/ him. we played pool and had a few drinks. i actually had a really good time - which was not my intention or what i was expetcting at all. at the end of the night he told me he had a great time too and maybe we could do it again blah blah blah. so he called a few days later and we talked but it was thanksgiving weekend and i was at home w/ my family. and we've only talked online since. he's mentioned a few times 'well you have my number right' so i'm wondering if he's not calling me now b/c hes waiting for me to call him? i dont understand. he was never online a lot before and now its almost everyday. he says things that make me think hes interested but he doesnt call....

so i know i'm gonna be flooded w/ 'he's just not that into you' posts but for some reason i kinda refuse to believe so. since i've read that book i havent called any guys but i'm wondering if he's a shy type and wants me to show interest before he goes any further.. are there such guys like that?

anyways, any comments, suggestions are welcome.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 10-16-2004 - 12:21pm
Well, since he wasn't too shy to ask you out persistently in the first place, it's doubtful that that's the problem.

Assuming you said something positive when he said let's do it again sometime, you've indicated your interest. Plus you're writing to him all the time!

Next time he says something about "you have my number", respond back by saying something like, "well, you have mine too, I'd really prefer that you call me". And see what happens.

Sheri

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Registered: 02-04-2004
Sun, 10-17-2004 - 12:02pm
so i called him last night and after missing each other's phone calls i finally got a hold of him. we spoke for a while and i think we're going to try to get together this week (yay!)