Guys are enigmas.. confused girl here.
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| Fri, 10-08-2004 - 2:35am |
I've been seeing this guy for 4 weeks now and we've been out exactly 4 times. I think he's a really great guy with a lot of potential. We get along really great. I like him and I know he likes me. But there are some things that's really bugging me.
The first time we were supposed to go out, he cancelled last minute because he had some stuff to do before school starts the next day. I was kinda pissed because I hate it when people cancel on me but I was cool about it. We scheduled to go out that friday instead (it was monday when he cancelled) and I joked that I was displeased about him cancelling on me, he apologized and I accepted it and we just laughed about it. We had a lot of fun that day and I really like him. He's a really nice guy who I can talk easily too. He called me up 2-3 days later, we talked and he asked me for a second date for that weekend and we went to dinner, saw a movie and hanged out with his friends and his brother. He told me he had a great time. Oh yeah, he's the kind of guy that compliments a lot. He's always telling me I'm gorgeous, stunning, etc and he told me his brother thinks im hot and that he's jealous of him.
Anyway, he called me up a few times and we decided to hang out again the next weekend. He cancelled the night before to tell me he has to work that weekend because his boss asked him that favor and he couldn't turn it down. He insisted on seeing me Monday though. I told him I have work Monday (I work nights) but he said he'll take me out to dinner before I go to work. I told him I'll think about it (I was pissed of he cancelled) but the night before Monday, I txted him to tell him I was disappointed I couldnt see him that weekend but he could make it up to me by buying me dinner Monday before I go to work. He picked me up at home monday after his work, went to early dinner and since I had 2 hours to kill before I go to work, we went to Central Park for a little over an hour, talking and he played his violin for me. (He's a high school music teacher, also part of an orchestra and also goes to school for his masters degree.) He's always complimenting me and he told me I'm really sweet and he really likes that. I joked he abandoned me that saturday and he was really apologetic about it. He also said he wants me to go to his Halloween party and I should think about whats my costume is going to be. I thought that was a really good sign since it means he sees us seeing each other a month from now. He asked what I was doing thursday but I already made plans thursday so he asked if he could see me the next day (since im off from work) and we could watch horror movies at his place (he knows I love horror movies and I'm always on the lookout for movies that will scare me, but nothing has, so far) and I agreed.
He picked me up at home next day after his work and we went to dinner, rented movies and went to his place. Oh yeah, just to mention, he lives an hour from me.. he lives in Long Island, while I live in Westchester. He has always travelled to pick me up and drop me off. We usually hang out in the city except this. Anyway, we went to his place and I'm really impressed he has his own house plus another house with tenants in another house a few yards from his place since he's young. The more I see this guy, the more I really like him. Nothing happened while I was at his place. We cuddled, kissed, watched the movie and talked. It was raining hard that night he drove me home. He asked me what I'm doing that weekend and I told him I'll be hanging out with my family since everyone's off from work. He mentioned he has to do a boat show saturday, as well. (Besides being a music teacher, part of the orchestra, graduate student.. he's also a co-owner of a jet ski and boat show business, which he gave me the website to check out.) I didn't hear from him that weekend and to be honest, I was asking all my friends why he didnt call me. I know he would be busy (I checked out the site and it said the boat show was fri, sat and sun) but it would have been nice if he called to say hi, you know? And he did say he would call and from my experience, when guys who are interested say they will call, they call. Anyway, he emailed me monday and said "I'm soooo sorry I haven't spoken to you in a bit. It was hectic this weekend. I had an amazing time with you and would love to take you out again if you like. Can't wait!" I was really happy when I got that email because I've been wondering all weekend what happened. I called him that night (this was this monday) when I was at work and left a voicemail. He called me back an hour later saying he just got back from orchestra practice and he's really glad I called because he wanted to talk to me. We talked for a bit then he said he wants to see me as soon as possible and I told him I'm free this thursday. He has class thursday (which only meets mon and thurs so he cant skip it) but he said he really wants to see me, so maybe after his class we could have dinner in the city. That was monday when I called him after his email and almost every night this week, he called to chat. I told him he has to let me drive his lexus because I just got my learner's permit and he said only when we hang out again in Long Island because it's safer in there than showing me how to drive in the city. Anyway, yesterday was thursday and I thought it would be easier if we meet in the city (since he goes to school in the city) so I called him up to set up where we are meeting and he said he was in the middle of a meeting and he will call me back. He called me back an hour later to tell me he has to work (again!) that night after his class and he asked me if he could call later that night. (He didnt call.)
Now I'm really really pissed. This is the third time he cancelled on me. I don't know what to think. Actually, it makes me think a lot of stupid stuff like..whether he's lying to me and he's dating other girls or not. Now, I realize it's none of my business if he is dating other girls because we are not exclusive and I do go out with other guys so I feel like I can't make a big deal out of this. I don't want to ask if he's dating other people because it's too early in the relationship for that. But I'm worried that what if he's lying and that the reason he is lying because he is going out with other people and that would really suck. But I can't ask him about this because what if he is really telling the truth and he does have work and here I am asking him if he's lying and making a big deal out of it. I would feel like a fool. But I feel neglected that he cancelled on me. THREE TIMES! Even if it was beyond his control. I don't really know where to go from this. I'm totally confused. What do you guys think? Sorry this is too long.

"u probably are a bit pissed at me. I truely hope not.. i like you a lot..it's just that for me work isn't over at three o'clock.. i have soooo many people that are depending on me at the beginning of the year. As well as this boat show that i'm doing during the w/e's.. After this w/e, though, i 'll have a lot more time to chill with the people I want to chill with, not old folks who tell me what exactly i do wrong;) I hope your not mad, every time i've postponed or cancelled, it's really been b/c i've had to work..You're an absolute sweetheart, and a true beauty. I couldn't imagine not wanting to chill w/u...so, let's talk this w/e. I'm just getting home (oh yeah, my comp. works now, do u have yahoo. messenger? maybe we can use our cameras) anyway, i hope to hear from you soon..."
I didn't even get to give him a piece of my mind yet. But I'll bring up this issue when I see him again because it really bugs me and I have to set ground rules so he would never do that to me again.. at least, not cancel so much as he's doing now. I can't be swayed by sweet talk.
Thanks for all the input, I really appreciate it. You guys are great! :)