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| Thu, 10-07-2004 - 10:31pm |
i am single n looking n in touch with a few guys...but, the problem is, i have met none of them. they are all in a different country. meeting will take a while..maybe a couple of months. i met them all online. i am a lil confused. all of them are nice to begin with, but as u go deeper u start to see stark differences in their personalities. i adore one of the guys a lot, really respect the 2nd guy for his maturity and intelligence, and the 3rd guy is nice too but is 6 yrs younger to me. i had a question especially bout this particular 3rd guy. we got along v well and talked for hours, he found me extremely sweet and said he felt i was like an angel to him, and he felt like pampering me..then he went on to describe in detail how he'd like to kiss me. but all that while, he did treat me with utmost respect. i was taken aback a lil bit with what he was doing, but didnt say anything coz i didnt wanna hurt him. i was totally CONFUSED whether he really likes me, or was he *using* me? how can i tell whether someone is putting up an act, or being genuine. i dont deny we definitely felt chemistry between us. and all those who have been talking online with someone one on one, will know what i am talking bout. yes i have spoken to this guy on the phone too, and it was very easy and comfortable.
there r guys who r reserved and so decent that they will never talk about anything physical, and take things slow and steady until both r really ready. and then there r guys, who feel the chemistry and act on it, without a single thought. do we girls need to be more careful of the guys in the 2nd category? or it possible that this guy is genuine too, and is just more EXPRESSIVE about what he feels, and wants to come close for genuine reasons.
i have felt the chemistry with all 3 guys that i am talking to.
and they all like me too. with one of them, altho things have been "unsaid" but they have been "felt".
i am confused about what is happening.
is there anything i need to keep in mind in such a situation? i know meeting all 3 will be essential, but, until then, what. things seem to be going "more than friendship" way with all 3.
will look forward to ur comments
thank u so much

anyway, back to ur story...so...if u r feeling that the guys are feeling genuinely for u...i do believe it has truth in it...and bcoz ppl are so much bound to play the right roles...there is a bit of act in it as well...but i believe that arises from true feelings...and yes...some guys would dive straight away in expressing their feelings while other may hold back...for a while...so u have all the varieties...but i have found that ppl who take time to express also take a lot of time to break up...so now u judge what type of person u r...if u r a person who dont want to let things die so easily (like me...) then i suggest u cud care more for the guy who is less expressive...however, the guy who is jumping too much...hmmm...i doubt how long his feelings would last...if u r happy to just flirt around..then its not a problem....however, one other thing...that is age has a lot to do with this situation...if u r young ppl...like less than or beginning 20s..then things happen in a rush at this age....where as if u r around late 20s (like me)..its more of a slow game...(oh how i hate this to be taken as a game...but alas i guess it is a game)....
so theres my comments...hope u get something out of it (yanni...'swept away'...going in the background....lovely....)
elvis_in_silence
ur thoughts were helpful. i am in my late 20's, and the guy i spoke about in my posting, who got a little physical, is in his early 20's. i guess we cant really say that the not so expressive ones will remain that way. maybe, they just hold off on that coz they feel it's the right thing to do. and i must say that is a very attractive thing about a guy, even tho some might call these guys boring. but these r the guys who do remain steady. at the same time, for the guys who do get really expressive, but at the same time respect the boundaries for a girl, do appear more "charming"....but as u rightly said, we don't know, how long their feelings last. i certainly want things to go slow and steady. esp, in this scenario, where u have never met. guess am gonna hv to give it time to see who sticks and who doesn't. hope it doesnt get any more confusing than what it is already. i could be going crazy one day analyzing this situation :-)
more comments welcome from others...
thank u..
(yanni's looking glass....going in teh background....mmmm....)
elvis_in_silence