Guys picks girl or Meet halfway?

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Registered: 08-11-2006
Guys picks girl or Meet halfway?
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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 12:42pm

So I am going for my first date today with this guy I met online. We were discussing how we should meet up. I would really like to know, is the general protocol "guy picks up girl?", or is it "meet halfway". I understand it could be "meet halfway" if the distance is too much between the two? But we live about a half hour away, which isn't really much.

He initially suggested meeting halfway, but I wasn't too excited about that for some reason. I suggested if he wanted to pick me up, and he said he didn't mind that but his passenger seat seatbelt isn't working, so if he picks me up I might have to sit at the back. I declined, and then said okay, we'll meet directly at the restaurant in that case.

What could be the reasons a guy wants to NOT pick up the girl for their first date, and meet halfway? Is it because they are just being cautious? Guys, what might be your reasons?

I know, I kinda like this guy, hence I wanted him to pick me up. if I had any reservations, or felt uncomfortable with something, I'd have volunteered to come for the date on my own.

Thoughts?

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Registered: 08-11-2006
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 7:59pm

Actually, my questions wasn't about 'where' to meet up....but rather 'how' to get there. In our own cars, or guy picks girl. Actually, I am a little contradictory here. It's the vibes the guy sends during those phone convos. Sometimes I do feel comfortable enough for the guy to pick me up, but there are times, guys have asked me directly if they can, and I did not like it...lol...and declined, and told them that I'd like to come in my own vehicle. This guy did not even suggest picking me up, so that suddenly made me feel more comfortable and made me offer the pick-up (which I thought maybe he wanted to do that, but hesitated, thinking that I might not like it). Psychology works in weird ways.

But as a general rule, I can see, it's better for both to meet separately, during those initial dates.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 8:13pm

sienna09....

PG agrees with the suggestion of the other posters: "MEET ON NEUTRAL GROUND FOR THE FIRST FEW DATES!"

You might get a 'vibe' from a telephone voice that's completely the opposite of the man you're going out with! You can't determine anybody's personality just by listening to a voice! .

I see no harm in a man that you've actually met once or twice "picking you up at your home"...but a total stranger that you've only conversed with over the phone or via the internet....NADA!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 08-24-2006 - 10:48pm
If this is the first time you are ever meeting him and your only connection is online you should meet halfway in a public place. This is not someone you know. If after the two of you meet and you trust him then for a real first date it would be nice if he picked you up at home
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