Had a great time last night but....
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| Fri, 03-12-2004 - 10:27am |
I went to the bar last night and he was there by himself (I was not). He made the first move to speak to me and we just kept it casual for awhile. Of course, after a few drinks the conversation turned to some other things and he told me that he was not ready for a relationship. I told him that I did not ask him for a relationship!! Why do guys think that if you want to hang out a little and get to each other better that you are looking to name their unborn children. Anyways, we got all that cleared up and we have plans to continue on with a growing friendship that could lead to more. Is that a crazy thing to fall for??? I think that he was being honest with me. He never talked to anyone else the rest of the night and he really has no reason to lie. I really think that he is a nice guy and I would like to see if something comes of us. Any ideas/thoughts on how to do this without being the one left standing alone in the end???

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I know that it is not possible to write the entire story on this board but I know that when we are around each other we have a good time and there is a feeling of a little more then either of us let on. So he is freaked out with the thought of a relationship right now but he tells where he is going to be and when I get there he kisses me before the night is over. (no sex!!) I just feel like I am getting mixed signs.
"I told him that I did not ask him for a relationship!! Why do guys think that if you want to hang out a little and get to each other better that you are looking to name their unborn children."
Since you mentioned his unborn children, I took it that "relationship" has something to do with the idea of sex!
It sounds like you are both trying to avoid rushing into something you might not want. Sounds sensible to me.
I think he's afraid. I also think there's something he wants very much. And he may feel a sense of responsibility toward not hurting you by being uncertain. And that's something to admire in a guy. He is unsure - and maybe inexperienced. Let him get comfortable in what he's doing.
But know this, if he wasn't thinking about getting into a relationship with you, he wouldn't have feelings of uncertainty. Enjoy him, appreciate him, and things will go where they go.
I hope that you are right, I think that he could be one of the few decent single men left in my area.
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