Had a sort-of date. What to say now?
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|Sun, 12-01-2013 - 3:27pm|
I was going to try and keep this short, but I have too much to say!
I have a crush on a man who works at the grocery store where I shop. We don't know each other well, yet, but are working on it. He has a visible physical disability... as a non-expert it looks like it may be scoliosis because his back and shoulders are crooked. I'm at a point now where I hardly notice it, and all I can think when I see him is how cute he is. However, he is extremely shy. I have to deal with social anxiety myself, and the more I try to talk to him, the more I realize he has social anxiety, too, and probably worse than I have it. I suspect this disability has probably hampered his social life and dating life a great deal, which probably lead to his social anxiety.
So we have two people with social anxiety trying to make a connection. This could be a long, slow process, but I'm okay with that. At first, we'd just smile and talk to each other a lot, but at the grocery store, there just isn't a lot of opportunity to build anything more from that, so one day, I slipped him a note when I was paying for my groceries, and I gave him my number and said maybe we could go to coffee some time. He got back to me a few days later, and said if I wanted to see him outside of work, he is on a bowling league, and I could see him there. He gave me the time and location and so I showed up the next Friday. I'm assuming that, because of the social anxiety, that was a more comfortable place for him to meet.
The day after, I texted him and thanked him for inviting me and said I had a good time. I didn't know how to get myself invited back, so I didn't go back for a few weeks. Finally, a friend suggested that I text him that I had a good time and ask if it would be ok to come back to his bowling league. I did and he responded that it will always be great if I want to watch him at his bowling league. So yay!! I went last Friday and I enjoyed being there. The good thing is I was able to ask lots of questions about the game, so that gave us something to talk about and I showed interest in what he is interested in.
Now, I want to text him again, just to open us up to being more familiar with each other. Even though the invite to watch him at bowling was open-ended, I feel awkward just showing up, without saying something to him first. I don't want to say the exact same thing every time... "I had a good time. Can I come again?"
I want to text him and let him know I'll be there, but I don't want to be a robot that says the exact same thing every time. Please, help this socially awkward girl come up with something to say!