Has our relationship regressed?
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Has our relationship regressed?
| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 4:49am |
Hi all, I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 months which have been pretty intense. We have been through a lot including an ex girlfriend who tried to kill herself in front of us, to me accidentally seeing pictures of him having sex with other girls to happy times such as my trip to France to meet his family and so many other wonderful things. Well all of this overwhelmed me and the wierd stuff depressed me that for a while I kind of hid from life to figure things out. I stayed with him 24/7 taking work home and doing it there and kind of withdrew from all of my life except for him. This was an unhealthy cycle and I stayed at his house 24/7 to escape from a lot of things that had gone wrong in my life and also to see if we belong together but of course we were getting on each other's nerves and so he suggested that we only see each other 4 times a week. He says we need to be apart and not together all the time so we can get a chance to miss each other and so that I can get my life back together again. Well ever since then I have felt like I am losing him little by little and he is rejecting me and my impulse is to reject him before he rejects me. I used to have the keys to his old house but now that he has moved to this new house he has not given me a key and it's been about two weeks. I have to ask him if I can come over now and so I am not.I hate having these restrictions of when I can see him when I used to be able to see him whenever I wanted to and it's making me depressed. SHould I have a talk with him or wait it out. He is a wonderful boyfriend but he has been busy renovating the new house so he has been neglecting me a bit and I feel like we are walking on eggshells with resentments and fear of hurting the other one. Any advice wold be appreciated.Thanks

Pianoguy has to be honest with you.
As long as you spend your time living your life around this guy, he'll probably continue to back away from you even more? Maybe he feels as if you're crowding him in some way?
Being around ANYBODY 24/7 can result in disagreements, headaches or worse!
Do you think you could take a 30 day break from each other and become involved with people and activities that might make you happier than you are now? It sure sounds like you could use a few changes from your present routine....yes???
Best of luck...
Pianoguy