Have I Been Played?
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Have I Been Played?
| Sat, 03-18-2006 - 5:03pm |
I am on an internet networking community and a guy sent me a link to his music and we ended up talking. We talked every night for 5 or 6 hours on the phone and finally he made plans to come see me (he lives 2 hours away)...we had a lot of fun...we went out and he held my hand, and all of that couply stuff...during that time, we ended up sleeping together (totally out of character for me), but, we were still as couply as ever...when he left, we both hugged each other and cried...as we were crying, he kept saying he can't date anyone b/c he'll be moving across the country...but, a few nights before he came, he'd said "just my luck, we'll hit it off then you'll be eaten by a tiger" ( I work at an exotic animal refuge) yesterday, he called me, so, I called him back but got his voice mail...when he returnd my call, he'd told me he was writing a song about me...I really fell for this guy...is he just messing with me to get a good lay out of me, or, is there some truth to him?

If his actions are following his words, then I don't think he's playing you. However, I do think you may be ignoring a really important piece of information.
Infatuation is like a powerful drug that will often influence behaviors you won't typically see in normal everyday life. It happens to both men and women. Infatuation often lasts 6 to 9 months. You won't get a clear understanding of a person's true values, character, ethics and integrity until the infatuation has settled.
It's impossible to say if you've been played. Since you decided to sleep with him the first day you met face-to-face (influenced by infatuation), and have said that it is out of character for you - he could be wondering if you are playing him too.
Only time will tell what will come of this. Manage your expectations in the early stages and you will significantly reduce the chances of upset.