have i been used?
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have i been used?
| Thu, 07-28-2005 - 4:59pm |
i started chatting to a guy friend of a girl friend about 4 months ago and weve always gotten on really well and had flirty texts and conversations almost every day so when we finally met up last week, we really hit it off and ended up having sex. afterwards he told me he was moving back to his home about 3 hours drive from where i live, (he'd been staying in a flat in my home town for the last year). since that day he hasnt spoken to me (its been 3 days(wich is a long time for him)). now i feel like ive been used.
My friend who first introduced me to him dosnt no about our "relationship" because he thought it would be a bad idea, but she told me that he once slept with another friend of hers because he knew she really liked him and then never spoke to her again. i now worry i have been so stupid as to have fallen into the same trap, what do you think??
My friend who first introduced me to him dosnt no about our "relationship" because he thought it would be a bad idea, but she told me that he once slept with another friend of hers because he knew she really liked him and then never spoke to her again. i now worry i have been so stupid as to have fallen into the same trap, what do you think??

It sure sounds like you have been used, but I could be wrong, you say he was moving, well maybe he is just very busy...even if that is the case it is still pretty rude of him not to call you at all.
If you can just forget about the guy, you only had one night with him so try to think of it as just sex. Try not to over analyze the situation or obcess over what you did wrong, you didn't do anything wrong and you weren't stupid, some men are just pigs and there is nothing that you can do about that.
If he ever does call you, if I were you I would answer his call, but make him well aware that if your time meant nothing to him then his means none to you (don't actually say that to him, but uphold that attitude with him). Don't act upset or ask what took him so long to call, just brush him off like he meant nothing...lets face it if he treats you this way now, why would you even care to get further involved with him. Get your it in your head that he is the one with the problem, not you!!! Be strong and good luck.
Ooh, that doesn't sound good. Did you KNOW about the other woman he slept with before you slept with him? If so, you ignored a really big red flag...I also think it was a red flag that he didn't want you to tell your friend about the two of you.
Anyway, live and learn...pay attention to those things next time. I'm sorry this happened to you.
Sheri