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| Sat, 04-07-2007 - 9:07am |
How will I find out if this man can be my potential partner?
Last Friday I met up with a man in his late 30s for the first time (interviewed for a project he is working on), through his supervisor whom I know. I was at first very reluctant, but I went there so as not to offend the middle person (you know!) It turned out to be a nice experience: among other things, he is a charmer (well, to me at least :)
The next morning he sent me a courtesy email to thank me for taking the trouble. Actually I did not think I would meet him again, but gladly replied that it was a pleasure to me and that I looked forward to see him somewhere in future. What was less expected from him was a reply -- which was not really necessary in such work situations -- it related something to the stuff we chatted on during the interview.
I am in my early thirties, still very young-looking. nonetheless, I have not been in a relationship for so long, that meeting a man who is entirely my type seems a dream to me. How do I know if anything will indeed come out of this? (by the way, I am quite sure that he is single, and this is not very surprising because of his work history which I dare not reveal here)

What an unexpected treat! How nice for you. "How do I know if anything will indeed come out of this?" - I am not sure exactly what you are asking by this question. Can you elaborate? My first thought is that of course the future is unknown, which makes sense.
"How will I find out if this man can be my potential partner?" - you can only find out by getting to know him. He seems willing to communicate with you, and that is the first obstacle in getting to know someone. I don't know what your dating style is, but one day one of you might suggest lunch. I like lunch dates when the initial contact comes via the workplace. It is not that intense and people are usually more relaxed.
Sounds good, best of luck.
I've not responded to his email in early April. Last night I sent a friendly, cute email to him, and he responded, as cheerful as always.
I have not really been in a relationship with someone related to work, and my relationship with people at work have always been formal, though friendly. In the past, I have tried to be more friendl towards people (both sexes) at work, but once we knew that we wouldn't likely meet again at work (like I had left the company), the friendship faded very soon.
This guy -- I don't think we will likely meet again at work, though we are still connected in some way. So I am actually surprised that he's very responsive, more responsive than I! Everytime I sent an email, he'll reply, even if it is not really necessary.
will a guy whom you meet at work, but will not meet again (at least not regularly), respond to your emails?
How will I ever test whether he at least likes me in some way?
Oh, I think i won't ever do anything like asking him out. I will be available, though.
Testing someone's interest via email usually doesn't work unless you get very explicit and that is something you don't want to do with company email.
You can ask him if he will be back at your place of business any time soon, because you enjoyed meeting him and it is a shame that your paths will not cross again as you found him interesting. If you phrase it like that, a guy with some interest, could email you back with an open type of invitation - like - we could still get together, it doesn't have to include work, type of thing.
But you will have to your intention (or your interest in him) kind of out there for him to respond.
thanks anyway ...