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| Wed, 07-05-2006 - 4:13pm |
Can someone give me a little input on this!? I have been going out with this guy for a few months. We go to the movies, dinner, etc. Anyway this past weekend we had sex for the first time. It was an experience that I want to forget. I was so traumatized, that I have to tell someone about it. I had always heard about men that didn't have a clue, but had never met one. It was like he knew what was supposed to happen, but didn't know how to do it. It was like he had no skills. I tried to help him, but when I saw the size of his d*#@ I just lost it. It was so small there was no way it was every going to go in, because it wasn't long enough to reach anything. Honestly, it looked like it should have been on an infant. Oh, and did I mention that it was hard, as small as it was. I wish I had taken a picture with my phone so people would be believe me. He's a big guy....why is he so tiny? I know that has to be embarassing for him to go to use the urinals. He tried to do something, but like I said it wouldn't reach. It was very akward. I was so turned off that I had nothing else to say for the rest of the evening, and was up and out first thing that morning. I have seen him since but I don't know what to say. I mean he's a nice person, but I don't ever want to do that with him again. I can't!!! The only way I can do things with him now is to act like nothing ever happened, and forget it. What do you think about this!? How would you handle a situation like this?

I can understand your disappointment and your decision not to continue seeing this man. But it sounds like you were harsh in your treatment of the guy after the sexual experience. Put yourself in his shoes... suppose you had been with a man who stopped talking to you and ran out the house right after you had sex with him?
The other thing I wanted to comment on was that size and performance are two different things. If the person doesn't meet your physical preferences, that's all there is to it. You're turned off and there's very little that can done about that. It's no one's fault.
Plenty of women, including me, know that many excellent lovers know how to work with what God gave them. But the first element that must be in place, however, is passion. If you don't feel adequate desire for your partner, it's going to be a miserable experience for you both.
My guess is your friend already knows he is small, and from the cold shoulder you gave him, I'm pretty sure he knows you were disappointed with him and the sex. But if he didn't get the message, try to let him hang onto whatever shred of dignity he has left. Tell him you don't feel the right connection with him, even though you think he's a fine man.
Take care.