Having fun with the wrong guy
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| Fri, 07-09-2004 - 2:51pm |
I've been dating this guy, we're friends, I like him, but I don't feel the buzzzz for him, I'm not in love, neither I want to commit. I don't feel he's "the one" for me. He knows this, I already told him. We slept together once and the sex was awesome! Very, very good. He says he likes me, would want to commit, but understands I don't feel the same way. He said he don't mind being in a friends with benefits situation, for us to continue sleeping together.
I just don't know what to do... I'm feeling being the man here... I know many man would just take advantage of this and don't mind about the other person, but I'm not like that, I care about his feelings. I would like to continue the sex thing, we really have chemistry in bed together, but I know for me it's just that. Is he saying he accepts that situation in order to expect in the future something else or he's he also not wanting to let go the good sex part? I just don't want to hurt his feelings, but if he accepts, he knows what he's doing, the cards are on the table.
What to do? Am I beeing selfish or just go for it if he don't mind? I just feel the day I find myself falling head over heels for another man, I'll stop immediately this relation with him, no mather what. Is it right to have fun with the wrong man while the right one doesn't show up?

Since you know that you would also drop him at the slightest chance with someone else, it will only further hurt and demean him if you continue a sexual thing with him. So just tell him that although the sex was great, that you are and will only be his friend and do not wish to pursue anything further with him. He should respect that, and if he doesn't, then he truly does not care for you and is only looking for sex.