He asked me to call but didn't mean it
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He asked me to call but didn't mean it
| Fri, 01-27-2006 - 1:18am |
Recently, a guy told me to feel free to call him if I ever wanted to get together. I called him on Monday nite, to see if he was available on Tues or Thurs of this week. We had a nice chat. He said he'd call me back and let me know about getting together.
He hasn't called back. It's Thurs nite. I guess this means he's not interested. I won't call him back. But why do men play games... why ask me to call if you're not into me. Due to his profession, he is a busy man. But, even busy people find time for someone they really want to see or speak with.
We attend the same church. Sunday will be awkward. I may stay home.

If you don't go, you let him know that what he did affected you. It might have, but don't back down because you are not the one that was wrong here.
Personally, I think that when a guy asks a woman to call him so they can do something sometime, that is the brushoff there. If he really wanted to do something, he'd ask you or call you. He may be thinking that you'll never call or that at least it puts it off so that he can come up with another way to postpone things when/if you do call.
So go to church and be friendly but only just past cordial. Wait for him to approach you. If you want to say something in a non-accusatory way of, "hey, you said you'd call..." but don't act upset and if you think you might act upset, don't say it.
Good luck but IMO, you should want a guy that acts interested in you and makes an effort. If he doesn't, move on.
adding a link to an article I read recently on ivillage called why don't men call when they say they will.
http://love.ivillage.com/lnsunderstandmen/whathedoes/0,,doyenne_747,00.html