he cant commit....??
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| Mon, 08-02-2004 - 12:35pm |
Were still "together" - he broke up with me so were not going out...
but its like were not broken up....like..friends with benefits basically...
and when we hang out- its just like were going out...and we have such a good time n it makes me think that hes actually gonna really go out with me.
i cant get over him....no matter how hard i try..
is it because we spend so much time together still?
i dont know....
i love being with him.. but sometimes he does things like blow me off...and doesnt bother to call me - and then a week later he'll call and ask if i want to see him - and i always give in and forget about what he's done..
Its just basically one big circle....and he tells me he lvoes me still....but i dont know if hes just saying that....because sometimes i just feel used...and i feel like he doesnt care about me.
i dont know what to do..because i talk to other guys- just as friends...and i kno this realyl sweet guy- who i kno woud treat me good and everything....but im stuck in this situation with my ex...thats just hard to get out of...
and theres no way i can be with anyone else..

You say you know this other guy who you think would treat you right, so why aren't you talking to HIM? Stop answering this ex's calls, don't be there for the booty, and tell him you're on your way out if he stops by. Quit waiting and hoping and looking for something that's not there. He's not going to change how things are because it works for him, so find something that works for YOU.
Try this other guy out, go and have fun!
& the longer you wait, the harder it would be to let go.
The only way to get yourselves out of this, is to stop seeing him entirely untill you're over him & into someone else. once you're into someone else, you'll see that this guy wasn't that great after all.
You will be faced with many, many hard decisions throughout your life. Your hard decision du jour: it is inevitable that the two of you are not going to make it, do you want this to be his choice or yours?
Words seem so much harsher in print. Believe me, I am on your side and wish you only happiness.
amjay45
You're not giving yourself a chance, hon.
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