Is he CHEATING???

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Registered: 04-23-2006
Is he CHEATING???
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Fri, 09-14-2007 - 11:50am

I've been dating a guy for 10 months and I'm beginning to suspect there is something going on. The reason why I think this is because of two clues:

1. He has to take Cialis (to help with his ED) pills when ever we have sex. I know how many he has and on Wednesday morning, I counted the pills, he had 5 left. Thursday, I went to his house while he was at work (he gave me his keys) and my gut told me to check and there were 4. I don't see him on Wednesday or Thursday so, I know he's not sleeping with me.

2. I did go see him Thursday night and to my surprise, he didn't want sex, he actually seemed a little irritated I tried to go down his pants. It was a definate change in behavior. I had a talk with him and he said he wasn't sleeping with anyone but me. Some how I believe him but what accounts for his strange behavior?

With this said, he was tired last night and it was the first time we didn't have sex and the first time he wasn't interested in me. When I left, he assured me every thing was fine and he was tired. He doesn't know that I've been counting his pills. I can't account for his missing pill. He was home Wednesday night so I know he didn't have a girl over and I was over last night. Could he be lying? Could he be cheating on me at work? I'm not sure what to do???

-V

Vanessa
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Fri, 09-14-2007 - 4:34pm

He could be cheating...otherwise why the missing pill?

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Fri, 09-14-2007 - 10:46pm
Uhh, could he be using the pills to masturbate to porn?







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Carrie

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Registered: 04-23-2006
Sat, 09-15-2007 - 2:10am

I am certain he is not using the pills to masturbate. It isn't that he's can't get it up, he can't keep it up when he's lying down. We've gone without the "pills" before and it wasn't until recently he has decided to use them and sex is that much better. I'm just worried now, he has a this new confidence and he may want to experiment with other people???

The questions remains - what happened to the missing pill? He really doesn't give me any other reason to suspect him and we've had a conversation about this and he seemed sincere and pissed off at the same time because I've accused him of something that I wasn't sure about. I went a little overboard, calling him in the middle of the day while he was at work and asked him if he was sleeping with someone else. I realize I have trust issues and I need to work on myself.

Vanessa
Vanessa
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 09-15-2007 - 9:25am

Since you've made the choice to assume, attack and accuse him of cheating - what exactly must he do to prove to you that he's not cheating?


Maybe he should assume you're stealing his pills so that you can go and have wild crazy sex with some other guy.

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Mon, 09-17-2007 - 1:08pm
Maybe he dropped the pill down the sink.

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Registered: 10-21-2004
Mon, 09-17-2007 - 6:45pm

<< He could be cheating...otherwise why the missing pill?

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Registered: 10-21-2004
Mon, 09-17-2007 - 7:03pm

<< The questions remains - what happened to the missing pill? >>


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Registered: 11-30-2006
Mon, 09-17-2007 - 8:52pm

I dont understand your post.

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Registered: 10-21-2004
Tue, 09-18-2007 - 1:39pm
sheesh, I think you could infer that I was addressing the OP in the last part
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Tue, 09-18-2007 - 2:14pm
Actually I was thinking maybe you were inferring the OP in the last part...but I didnt want to assume. Sorry about that.