is he cheating?

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Registered: 06-04-2004
is he cheating?
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Thu, 06-17-2004 - 1:01pm
My BF did something suspicious the other day. I had just gotten to his place and went to use his bathroom. Before I could close the door he followed me in to change the trash can bag. What could he have been taking away if not a poorly concealed condom?

I really don't want to believe he's cheating., but I'm having trouble coming up with another explanation.

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Thu, 06-17-2004 - 5:32pm

Is that the ONLY reason you suspect him of cheating?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-17-2004 - 10:09pm
maybe he had five empty toilet rolls in there that he didn't want you to see? He wanted to finish cleaning the bathroom before you went in there?

I don't see what he's done to merit your response. Is your gut telling you something or are you very insecure?
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Registered: 06-04-2004
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 4:20pm
I keep telling myself that it could have been anything, but there have been a few things lately that have raised an eyebrow. I've seen him an average of once every two weeks since the beginning of May. He says it's all because of work, and to be fair he is a workoholic by definition. I also just discovered some very flirtatious postings on a message board. To make things worse, he stood me up for a lunch date today.
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Registered: 06-04-2004
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 4:23pm
Thanks for the vote of confidence. There have just been a few things out of whack lately. We've talked a little about it, and I think I am just overreacting. I also just started new birth control (the patch) and the hormones have made me very emotionally volatile.
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Registered: 12-23-2003
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 4:39pm

Ah-ha.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 4:53pm
Yes, we're definitely exclusive. we became exlcusive after month 3. It's been almost 8 total. The every two week thing just started in May. As for lunch, we made plans yesterday to meet for lunch after he got off work (he's off around noon on Fridays, usually). He was going to call when he left and meet me at a little place down by my office. He didn't call...until 3:30! Then when he does call he acts as though nothing happened, until I inform him that I am upset because he stood me up. Then not only does he not apologize, he says he didn't stand me up. I told him we would talk about it later because I was not going to have that conversation at work.


Edited 6/18/2004 4:55 pm ET ET by annafromsavannah
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Registered: 05-01-2004
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 10:04pm
From what state is your bf? Sounds like someone I know....I wonder if it's the same person....
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Registered: 06-04-2004
Sat, 06-19-2004 - 10:53am
Lol..are you serious? I'm betting his behavior is more common than any of us would like to believe, though.
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Registered: 06-18-2004
Sat, 06-19-2004 - 11:53am
Hello,

Now that is weird, maybe he had a bad bathroom job and threw the toliet paper in the trash and didn't want you to see it? I am not sure. I really hope he isn't cheating. Because that is not cool. Do you think he is cheating? If so, then he might be, keep watching him, look for marks on him, such as scraches and bruises, or something that looks odd, and if he kisses you different then it is a bad sign. We we'll have to hope he was just embarassed about the trash can. I hope you the best. Good luck.

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sat, 06-19-2004 - 2:32pm
It could also have been a remedy for baldness or something else that embarrassed him. Has he given you any reason to distrust him? Is this yet another red flag or could it be you are terribily insecure, perhaps a bit paranoid?

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