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| Thu, 02-15-2007 - 10:52am |
Its me again. I seem to always pop up here with one question or another. Here is the new one.
The last couple of weeks a certain man was been persuing me. I wasn't putting too much stock into it because I had been told he was a big player and had some skeletons in his closet.
We went out last Friday and had a good time. He called on Saturday and we made plans to meet up on Sunday. We went out Sunday night and again had a good date. He said he would call Monday.
Nothing. I get a very haphazard email Tuesday morning. I reply. Then nothing. I have a quick question for him later on in the day and email him. I then go work out and go to dinner. I get back later on that night, and his response to my email is very short. I'm thinking "ok, he is brushing me off". I respond to him and say don't mind me.
Next thing you know we have 4 emails going back and forth to each other and he asks me out again for Friday. Says he will plan it and will get in touch with me closer to the time.
At this point, I'm lost. I went from thinking he was brushing me off to getting a date. I just don't know what is going on. I then come home from work yesterday and find that he has left a valentines card and chocolates in my mailbox. I call and thank him and then go on about my night.
That really didn't help the situation any. That took some effort. I'm trying to be very go with the flow with this one because I do know of his past, but I think I like him.
Does anyone know what is going on???

He might have a past but all I see is some very keen interest from this guy. So he didn't respond immediately to your email, he might have been busy, but he did respond and then followed up with good communication and a plan for a date.
I say go with the flow, he's done nothing wrong.
(Now how many times have I had the opportunity to say that on this board?)
I know. I need to go with the flow. That is how I usually am, but this summer I got screwed over. Just don't want to get screwed over again. I need to stop thinking every man is like the one I dated before.
Thanks!
Really
Jilly
Well, my story has no ending quite yet, but I do have a piece to add. Friday night, we are at the bar, and he starts talking about being really honest. He says he likes me and is interested but wants to get everything out. He is 35 and in a good part of his life. He has some living to do. He wants to see me still, and when we are together, I will have his undivided attention. But he doesn't want anything serious right now, and we are to go out there and both see other people.
I told him that was what I had suspected.
He said he isn't seeing anyone else but wants me to know what's going on.
My friends say he is pretty much telling me he wants to be friends with benefits. He wants me to just be there and to date when we can. I agree. I'm fine with just being there, but for how long?
At least he put the truth out there.