He clicked "Show Interested" the Update

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He clicked "Show Interested" the Update
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Wed, 09-26-2007 - 10:02am

Hey All,


Special hello to sanfu- it's been awhile. Hope your doing well chicky!


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Registered: 09-01-2007
Wed, 09-26-2007 - 10:08am
For me, personally,
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Wed, 09-26-2007 - 12:23pm

I think the chances of something coming of this interaction are slim to none but the ball is definitely in his court.

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Wed, 09-26-2007 - 1:53pm

I see a few things going on here:



  1. he may have made contact with you via "show interested" because he may have just wanted to make peace with you and let you know that he was interested in you but maybe things were just too overwhelming for him.
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Registered: 02-27-2007
Wed, 09-26-2007 - 3:33pm

Thank you everyone for sharing your advice! :)


Snafu- Wow your response made me feel so much better. I'm sitting here like don't be dumb again Lee, ya know. I tossed the ball at him it's still up to me regardless, be it I call or not. I was thinking the same thing you mentioned, be a man about it. But I also feel he wants to see if I'm still interested (something I intentionally left out) or if my intentions are going to be "play ball".

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Tue, 10-02-2007 - 3:14pm

Hi All,


Looking for some comfort, I suppose.


**Snafu thanks for the email, much appreciated you taking the time out.


But I'm back to getting over the "ghost". I sent him an email just saying how I felt about how he left, and how I didn't want to set myself up for the hurt again. And I didn't deserve what happened. Told him to have fun on the dating site, and how I wont compete with the others he's speaking to because I'm not at the getting to know you stage anymore. He responded with I'm 100% right, he understands but he had a lot going on at the time, and I didn't deserve that. he didnt' know what he wanted, what I was thinking and his divorce was a huge factor, but ended with he has a good heart and feels horrible that he hurt me, and he's sorry for the pain he caused me. The End.


So I wrote him back letting him know I'm not looking to "blame" I understood he

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Tue, 10-02-2007 - 3:24pm

You decided to take a chance that you knew was a long shot, so I'm not sure why you'd be "disappointed" in yourself.

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Tue, 10-02-2007 - 7:00pm

<< So readers any one have any suggestions on how not to feel dissapointed in yourself for allowing a ghost back in.>>


When I was reading your post ... my thought was "gosh, for someone who said she doesn't want to get hurt like that again ... it kinda seems like she's setting herself up for it again".

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 8:28pm

Hey Lee, I didnt hear back from you so I was hoping you were okay.

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Tue, 10-02-2007 - 8:35pm

I almost forgot to address your question: "

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Registered: 02-27-2007
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 11:24am

Hiya,


Thank you all for your advice. I will admit I DID act quickly, and it was my intetnions. You (starbuck) said I set myself up and yeah I feel I did. I think it was more personal for me to see how fast I could push him away or have him do as he did to "get it over with". My friends weren't very supportive about him reappearing and said "don't speak to him at all". But if I ignored him I would ave wondred,

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