He doesn't call much is that a bad sign?
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| Sun, 10-09-2005 - 6:13pm |
I have been seeing this since June(with a little break). We don't really talk on the phone much, is that a bad thing? He calls or I call to set up a date to see a movie, dinner or to get a drink,etc. Then I may not hear from him until the following week. He called me all the time in the beginning, we actually started talking on the phone in May and then we out in June.
1. Is that a bad sign that we only talk on the phone to set up a date. I know he likes me and has a good time, but does that mean he not into me that much?.
2. Can I iniate talking on the phone more without being annoying(don't want him to think why is she calling me again). He works a lot and when I call I go to his vm 90% of the time, but he does call back. Because of my work when he calls he usually has to leave a vm, but we can talk at night. I am not big about talking on the phone. I would just like to hear how his day went and shoot the breeze for a few minutes and then were done. I DON'T HAVE TO TALK TO HIM EVERYDAY!

another Jen LOL I am almost in the same boat as you. He never calls as much as he should but I wind up calling him. I don't think it's a bad sign yet. Although, The book If He's not into says if he doesn't call you it means you aren't on his mind or the guy is an a-hole. If he still wants to go out with you it's a plus if he doesn't and makes up excuses I would definitely take it as a bad sign and consider dumping his butt. Maybe he's a shy guy or he is just plain busy. Guys are stupid let's face it. They only think with their D*** and they are clueless with a woman's feelings. It sucks I know believe me but it's the honest to god's truth. I saw a funny shirt once and it's so true....... The stupid factory where boys are made. It's funny because Men can be boys at times they act so stupid! Seriously, like I said as long as he still wants to go out with you it definitely seems like he's still interested but........ If he doesn't and makes up lame excuses then by all means consider dumping him because if he makes up excuses now imagine what it will be like 10 years down the road. Hope this advice helps! From one Jen to another
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Jen
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Please, let's take it easy with the generalizations. Not only are they not correct, we have to keep in mind that this board is a mixed one and generalizations can be very offensive.
Thanks
Jen
Ps. I really don't like that book "He is not that into you." I feel every person is different in their dating style. Some people may be big on the calling thing and others are not really into talking on the phone.
Maybe there's more to your question than just phone calls.
I know it's tough to realize you're not on the same page but be glad you can do it before you have more feelings and feel more attached. Be friends if you like but as of now, this does not sound like a promising romantic relationship.
Thanks
Jennifer (I KNOW I AM TRYING TOO HOLD ON TO HIM.)
Jen, dear, I know this is difficult but I promise you, if this were the right guy at the right time, it wouldn't be this hard. You wouldn't be doing all this guessing, you wouldn't be stressed about it and you wouldn't have the doubts that you do.
You asked why he would toy with your feelings if he didn't like you? You know the answer to this... he wouldn't. He would want you to think positive things about him, not be hurt and confused.
It's up to you if you want to ask him where things are going... but deep down (or maybe not so deep) I think you already know. It takes more courage to let yourself see that than it does to keep trying for something that isn't there. You can do it because you deserve better.
Thank you so very much for taking the time to give me advise. You don't know how much that means to me. I know that I definetly deserve better. When you are with someone you should not feel stressed out and have doubts about the person you are with.
Thank You,
jennifer