He doesnt feel the same....

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-29-2004
He doesnt feel the same....
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Tue, 03-16-2004 - 4:30pm
My boyfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago....it was a year and 3 months relationship...we never said i love you...three weeks ago he broke up with me over the phone and didnt give me a reason he just said that things werent working out...and i just talked to him last night and he told me "my feelings weren't matching up to yours and what you wanted" and i dont understand..i never demanded anything from him..and i never said i love you to him so it wasnt like i was pressuring him....he says he still likes me...maybe we'll get back together...what do i have to do...please help...
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 03-16-2004 - 4:48pm
I think you need to give him space and if he misses you and regrets his decision he knows where to find you.

My question for you - why did you date someone for over a year where you didn't share loving feelings? What did you want out of this relationship? Did you ever discuss the future - in what context? If he wnated you back how long would you stay without him telling you he loved you and how long would you stay if you knew he would never marry you?

I think breaking up over the phone is wrong given the length of time but my guess is that both of you kept your distance from the other during this relationship.

It will get better, I promise.