He doesn't respond!

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Registered: 10-16-2003
He doesn't respond!
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Tue, 12-07-2004 - 10:56pm

Hello,

i met him online. we became fast friends..which led to lotsa phonecalls..and eventually us falling in love with each other. atleast, i m sure i did. he did tell me he loved me too, and showed it when he came online every single day to talk to me, and called me often.

we r in different countries. have never met. he is 5 yrs younger than me. i m in my late 20's.

we did discuss the possibilities of it not working out in real life, and whether what we felt for each other was an Illusion. then, with a heavy heart i agreed to be friends with him. he is a very very practical guy, and i am the emotional one.
and then, a point came, when he literally stopped writing to me. he moved to a new place and it has been a month, and he has still not given me his phone number. so there is no way i can call him. he did call me once when i requested a lot, but i missed the call, and he left a message. i have written to him every single day, requesting him to call me, but he hasn't. he does not even respond to my constant mails. when i asked him if he wanted to end everything, including friendship, his one line reply was that i was special to him, and that he had caused a lot of hurt to me without intending to do so.

i am stressing out everyday not seeing his mail in my box, and wondering why he has Still not given me his phone number. i m stressing out wondering why he doesnt even wanna be friends! when he himself thot that was the best way to go. clearly, and without doubt, he really likes me. then why this silence.

i m heartbroken. i love him, and yet, his non-response is making me hate him.

HOW can i have him write to me? or call me.
i have requested it So many times, that i feel i m going mad. and that my requests are falling on deaf ears.

shd i go silent like him?

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anonymous user
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 7:46am
This is the one thing I hate about on line dating. You don't know how truthful the person is. This guy was presenting himself to you one way and in another way perhaps hiding something or someone else.
I'd forget him and move on with my life. He's clearly sending you signals that the game is over. Be strong. Move on with your life. You can do it. Anyone who walks away from you in such a non caring manner as he did and claimed to "love" you does not deserve anymore of your thoughts or time.
Bait your hook with fish you can fry. ;)