Is he gay?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2004
Is he gay?
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Thu, 11-30-2006 - 1:56pm

HI,

I am back in the dating game again, in my 40s, so I am a little rusty. I am really interested in the guy who does my lawnwork, he seems to like me also, very talkative, asks personal questions etc. Anyway, he is 38 and never married and I think he may be gay, nothing obvious, just a feeling. There is no one to ask. I would really like to ask him to go for a drink, but I don't want him to feel uncomfortable, like I should have known this all along. How do I approach this.

Thanks

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: greyseal2004
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 12:26am

greyseal2004...

First...Pianoguy would like you to DROP THE STEREOTYPE many unmarried men often are labeled with. Just because a man hasn't gotten married by his late 30s DOESN'T MEAN HE'S GAY!

Have you ever considered the possibility that the man you're interested in probably enjoys "the single life?" There are many men who enjoy dating women...but (for reasons known only to themselves) prefer to sleep in their own beds ALONE!

Go ahead and ask him to join you for a drink and appetizers somewhere? The worst answer you'll get from him will be is: "THANKS..BUT I'M NOT INTERESTED!"

And if that's his response...move on to someone else!

Pianoguy

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2004
In reply to: greyseal2004
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 4:47am

Actually that was not the reason I thought he may be gay. His mother died recently and in the obit it said survived by "his name" and his friend, a man's name. I don't stereotype anyone like that.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-20-2006
In reply to: greyseal2004
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 6:27pm
Sorry to butt it, but that's kind of odd. Usually when something lists 'survived by' it lists relations and family to the person who died, not to the person who died's son. That would make sense if it was this guys obit, but not his mom's? How do you know that the other name listed was a friend of your guys and not a relation or some significant person in his mom's life? Just curious.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2004
In reply to: greyseal2004
Sat, 12-02-2006 - 8:29am

Thanks for showing me another way of looking at it. I hadn't thought along those lines. I hope he is available, and the friend is "just a friend."
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
In reply to: greyseal2004
Tue, 12-05-2006 - 8:16am

Ask him. You have no idea if he really is gay (being 38 and unmarried alone is not a clue) but if he is, at worst perhaps you'll make a new friend

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
In reply to: greyseal2004
Sun, 12-10-2006 - 10:20pm
I agree - very likely he's not gay!
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