IS he gay?

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Registered: 08-12-2004
IS he gay?
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Thu, 08-12-2004 - 2:45pm
I met a guy over the internet more than a month ago and we go out once a week. We are both over 40 and never married. He is a successful trader, generous, personable but he never makes a pass. He shows no interest in sex and I have asked if he is gay, which he denies, but I am still wondering because it is very unusual for a man not to show some interest in sex.
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Registered: 05-05-2003
In reply to: uforje
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 3:25pm
Not all guys try to go for the *gold* so to speak. And I think he's written off any sexual feeling for you since you questioned him about being gay. Did you ever consider that maybe this man only wanted to make a new friend? That it's only been a month and he wants to get to know you and make sure that things are good before bringing sex in to things? It may come as a surprise, but not all guys only want sex right away. He is probably checking you out first as friends to see if you are what he's looking for.

Since you are obsessed with the whole *he hasn't made a pass at me* thing, maybe you should be dating someone else. Or maybe you should try asking him what he's looking for, rather than asking him if he's gay.

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In reply to: uforje
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 5:41pm
My last bf didnt try to sleep with me in a hurry. The thing was that he respected me and actually wanted to get to know me beforehand. Maybe thats what this guy is doing. Funnily enough a lot of people thought he was gay because he wasnt into sleeping around.
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Registered: 08-07-2004
In reply to: uforje
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 7:13pm
Hi. I have to say that my ex fiancee and