Is he a good guy (really)?!

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Is he a good guy (really)?!
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Fri, 06-18-2004 - 4:28pm
It seems that I have the hardest time of anyone I know in picking a good guy! Honestly, all I want is a guy that will be honest w/ me and treat me good and that I enjoy being with..I am 28 years old and have have my share of guys that present a great package at the beginning and then I find out it was all an act!..I am very good catch( so I've been told by friends and family) I am very attractive, have a great personality,very independent (have a good job,my own home,nice vehicle) I want someone to share my life with..I have had several relationships, my most recent lasted 1 year and I really thought he was the one, we talked about marriage, family,future goals, everything..we had even gone to counseling together b/c he had been married before and "supposedly" had some hangups and wanted to get passed those things so that he and I could have a future (that's what he told me anyway) come to find out he wanted the counselor to break up w/ me for him!! that is a very long story that I won't bore you all with, but according to my counselor, both of our families, and everyone that had been a part of our lives while we had been together thought we were a perfect couple and that he was just the greatest guy! However 1 week after he broke up with me I saw that he was back on Match.com and had written a bunch of lies about himself and his most recent relationship.(he stated that his last relationship was so long ago that it didn't count anymore)..I have been handling the break up just fine, but at the same time I am soooo skeptical b/c this isn't the first time this kind of thing has happened. I am not a naive person by any means and I thought I was a pretty good judge of character, but I'm doubting myself now...I actually met a guy a few weeks ago that I have been out w/ sevral times and he "seems" like a good guy and I am attracted to him, but I find myself thinking about it too much and wondering when he says something nice..Is he just saying that? does he really mean it ? or is he just buttering me up, so I'll sleep w/ him?....all this and more goes through my mind and I know it's not fair..But,how will I know when they are really sincere,after 1 year with the last one he turned out to be a snake!!
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Registered: 12-23-2003
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 5:17pm

I think

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 5:24pm
I appreciate your response and agree with parts of it...However if I had explained the whole story about my exboyfriend you would not say that he was not a snake...but I don't feel the need to go into all that..but thank you for you response
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Registered: 12-23-2003
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 1:19pm

Hi, I re-read your original post and

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Registered: 05-26-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 1:19pm
its really easy to ruin a relationship with previous trust issues.
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