He has all the power

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Registered: 03-25-2003
He has all the power
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Mon, 03-15-2004 - 7:04pm
Currently my boyfriend seems to have all the power in the relationship. I did something stupid that almost drove him entirely away (I didn't cheat, but I behaved foolishly and in a way that has made him lose trust), but I'm frankly getting a bit tired of apologising, watching everything I say and feeling like I can't ask for anything in return. How do I get things back on a 50-50 keel between us?
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Registered: 08-07-2003
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 9:08pm
I think that whatever you did, your bf can either handle it or he can't. If he can handle it, then an apology and a little extra sensitivity in that area for awhile - plus of course not doing whatever it was again - should be enough. Note that I said AN apology. You should not be apologizing repeatedly. It serves no purpose, really. As for asking for things - not sure what you mean, but if you have needs that aren't being met you should ask for that. If your bf can't handle it, that's another matter, but you should at least feel comfortable asking.

I think the two of you need to have a talk and resolve how you're going to get past whatever issue(s) you have.


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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 03-16-2004 - 2:57pm
No, your boyfriend does not hold all the power unless you allow it! You did a boo boo, you apologized and attempted to make it right. He is still got his mouth stuck out. Okay, so when will he and you build a stronger relationship....Christmas???

Ok, I am just joking, seriously, yet if he continues to be pooh, pooh and throws it in your face or punishes you, then you need to rethink this relationship.

Let me know how it goes, take care!