he has got silent

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-18-2004
he has got silent
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Thu, 03-18-2004 - 11:19pm
i am in a relationship with a guy for about 10 months. we always have had very good times together and he cares about me a lot when we are together. He lives in another city. Everything was great in the begining and he told me that we would marry but he might have to face some problems from his family (we live in asia). anyways i never forced him to talk to his family about us and he always gave me the impression that he would talk to them when time is proper. About 3 months ago he told me that his family has selected a girl for him and that he has talked to them about us but they are not listening to him. He said that he is worried but he dont think that his family would listen to him. During all that period i kept in touch with him through calls, mails etc. and he also responded but always avoided talking on the issue with his family. about a month ago he told me that he has a severe fight at home regarding the same issue and that his some family members would support him now; atleast he was expecting that. we also met and he was all very caring and i told him that i believe him. But after that meeting i never heard from him. i called him and he turned his mobile off. i sent him mesages and he didnt reply. i even sent him a mail that if he is depressed coz of his family then lets end all this coz i dont want him in pain but still silent. i dont know wat to do? i dont understand what he is upto, whether he wants to end all this or what. i also want to add that before our recent meeting he also got disappeared like that for about a week and then he said that he was tensed so wanted not to disturb me . tell me wat to do?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-10-2004
Fri, 03-19-2004 - 7:07am
I would move on. Whether or not he has resolved his differences with his family - do you really want to be a with a guy who regularly chooses not to respond to you when you repeatedly attempt to make contact with him? Whatever is going on with him, he is clearly not concerned with your feelings or needs - he sounds selfish and self-absorbed, no matter how difficult his situation is.

As disappointing as it is, I would move on.

Coolas