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Is he interested?
| Wed, 03-15-2006 - 9:55am |
I finally met someone 2 weeks ago,we are about the same age,46,we;ve both been married twice,we've had 2 dates.He is really a very nice guy,we both work ourshecdules makes it very hard to see each other very much and he works alot of overtime.But he's told me he's very interested in pursuring it further if we can just find the time.We talk mostly online when we can catch each other.How do I handle this I too want to keep seeing him.He lives fairly close to me.He has my phone number but hasnt never called we go a few days without talking any which kinda worries me,but he says nothing is wrong he's just so busy with his work and the long hrs and he too has to work alot of his days off so I guess he's worn out and just wants to chill out when he comes home,he lives alone.and too his last relationship ended badly,the lady he was dating ended up being married after telling him she wasnt,this went on foe 7months,she lived on the other end of the state from him and they just seen each other on weekends,so he never seen her husband because he worked of town till both men came face to face in this ladies apartment.so with all this maybe he's just afid of being hurt and being honest I am too,both my marriges was hurtful. and its still very early for anything serious between us.all tho we have kissed and such stuff and he tells me Im very pretty and he likes me alot and likes seeing me and i do him too,I dont know him very well yet and same for him,but he really seem like an honest guy,so do I just need to have patience and just see where it goes?

Sure, you could try being patient and see what happens, but he may be showing you that he's not really interested in or able to prioritize building a new relationship at this time. But OTOH, once a week dates sounds pretty normal for the beginning of a new relationship, and I generally don't talk to people I've just started dating more than a couple times a week.
However, if he's already told you so much about his last relationship (I'd say that's a red flag), he may be "walking wounded" and not really a good choice for a healthy relationship. Everyone's been hurt...healthy adults deal with the hurt (and get help if they need it) and move on before getting involved with someone else. But again, time will tell. Give it a few more weeks and observe his behavior. You'll know a lot more then than you do now.
Sheri