Is he interested?

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Registered: 04-02-2004
Is he interested?
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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 6:14pm
I am seperated and interested in a guy that I met while he was painting our house. (I was married at the time) He and I had a few conversations and he smiled at me everytime I saw him and we had eye contact every time. He complemented me one time also. My relationship with my husband was already in trouble due to infidelity (husband) and I became interested in him. We live in a fairly big town and I have seen him driving by on 4 occasions. I was taking my daughter to a doctors appointment one day and my husband was meeting me to take our son with him and out of the blue this guy drives up and its him and he starts talking to my husband asking him how the house was going. I didn't have a chance to talk to him as we were late for our appointment. When I got home my husband was very suspicious and I said I wouldn't ask him to meet me some where that he was going to be also and he said that the guy looked hurt that I didn't talk to him. So.. I wrote him a letter apologizing and telling him that my husband and I are seperating. I feel this strong connection with this guy. And I didn't want to turn my back on him.. He wrote back saying he was sorry that things weren't working out with my husband and I and that he hoped everything worked out in the end. He also talked about his own troubles (he recently has had a son but, not married to the women) and told me that something that always helps him that might help me "For those who fight for it, life has a flavor that the sheltered shall never know" He then said that he hoped that I achieve what I truly value and he said "until next time, take care and please pray for me. So, What do you guys think? Is he interested or just being nice? I hope that I am not putting too much into this due to my recent seperation and the need for a self esteem boost...
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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 6:19pm

Who knows?

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 10:36pm
I think you are right that because you are still a married woman and going through such trauma, you might be reading into it - on the other hand, of course, even if he is interested, you are not "datable' right now - you are a married woman going through a trauma and my advice would be not to date anyone until a year after your divorce is final. Friendship, harmless flirting is one thing - dating and a relationship while you are still married/newly divorced is quite another.