Is he interested??

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-13-2006
Is he interested??
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Sat, 10-07-2006 - 7:24pm

I met this guy online about 2 weeks ago. We were chatting every night for about 2 weeks before we met up for lunch, which was just a couple of days ago. We got along great online and would chat at least an hour or so every day.

Well, we finally met up for lunch a couple of days ago. I thought it went well but I'm not sure what he thought of me. He was very nice and insisted on paying for lunch (not sure if this has any significance).

He sent me an email that night saying sorry he missed me online and thanking me for lunch and said he will be super busy with work for the next few days, and that he will chat with me soon. I replied back and gave him my phone number. I emailed him again today...

So I'm not sure if hes interested or not... I know he is busy these next few days.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-31-2005
Sat, 10-07-2006 - 8:27pm

You've done all you can do. You let him know you're interested and now the ball is in his court. I know it's hard, but try to wait it out... time will tell!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2003
Sat, 10-07-2006 - 10:28pm

Let him contact you the next time. Don't e-mail or else. Let him "think" about the date and such. If he's interested he'll contact you to set up a second date. A clingy and very needy woman is a turn off and even more after the first meet.

A piece of unasked advice....focus on what you think and like about this guy rather than in what he thought about of you. It's better to approach dating from this point of view because on the long run YOU are the one choosing the guy and not all the way around. He has to meet YOUR standards.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-13-2006
Sun, 10-08-2006 - 8:07am
Okie thanks for the advice. He did reply back yesterday but I'm going to wait for him to make the next contact.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-13-2006
Tue, 10-10-2006 - 11:52am

Okay I'm confused. I still don't know what he thinks of me.

He chatted online with me for about 45 mins last night. I know he will still be very busy. But he didn't mention anything about our lunch last week, or that I gave him my number, or about doing anything together.... We talked about his dad who just died, his work and his daughter... and what we did on the weekend...

Is he interested or not?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-10-2006 - 4:10pm

If he wasn't interested in you:

- He wouldn't have responded to your email
- He wouldn't have disclosed his busy schedule to you
- He wouldn't have spent time chatting with you online
- He wouldn't have disclosed details about his dad's recent death
- He wouldn't have disclosed any details about his daughter

Now the question becomes - can you show a little patience for a few days rather than expecting him to jump through a bunch of secret hoops to prove he is interested in you after a single lunch date?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-13-2006
Tue, 10-10-2006 - 7:45pm
Thanks I really appreciate your advice. Yeah, you're right...I am coming across as very impatient and especially selfish considering the circumstances. I have to stop this and just take this as it is. I haven't pressured him for an answer because I know he is under stress. But I guess I'm just confused myself and trying to figure some things out on my own....
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 10-15-2006 - 1:43pm
Next move is DEFINITELY up to him. If you hear from him, great. If not, that's ok. Plenty of fish in the sea!
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