Is he interested or flirting

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Is he interested or flirting
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Mon, 12-06-2004 - 11:08am

Hi,

There is a man I am interested in, if he touches my leg or arm on more than one occasion do you think he is interested or just flirting. We have a business relationship, but we do not work directly together. I have only met with him a few times and we along with his partner had a drink the other day at a bar and that is when he did that. I am interested in him but I don't want to scare him away!

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Registered: 06-05-2004
Mon, 12-06-2004 - 5:55pm

Hi haleylondon,

Any man who is interested will not scare away. In this situation, touching your leg and arms could be a sign of interest but before you pursue anything with him ensure he is not interested in only one thing especially since you guys are at a bar and have been drinking. As you know, drinking makes people do things they wouldn't normally do without those couple of drinks. BTW, I am not insinuating that he may have been drunk but I am saying that even a few drinks makes people all the more bolder and half the time they have only sex on the mind... Just my opinion. Good luck. Lucy

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Mon, 12-06-2004 - 9:49pm

Hi

Very good point about the drinks, except he only had 2 total, and he was doing the "touching" before he had much to drink! Not sure if I explained that he was a person through business not someone I met there, with that being said you are right, sometimes they are after one thing! I don't think that it is in this situation he doesn't seem like that type of person. What I am trying to figure out is if he is just that way in general. You know how some people are more touchy than others. It's very possible that he has already picked up on that I might be interested. I know the only person who really knows if he is interested is him. I just thought I would analyze this over and over like we women love to do!!!! Really though, I appreciate peoples opinion on this! Thanks

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Registered: 11-10-2004
Tue, 12-07-2004 - 3:34am
Greetings haleylondon,
Bellina sends cheers! Well all I can gather if he didn't have a few too many drinks and
he was discreetly touching legs and arms..then this could be a sign of attractions toward you.If he wasn't interested,i may be off kilter,but don't believe he'd display any touching.However,I'm from England and resided in Italy(Italian born)and such cultures usually display body(subtle)touches openly,men will hug,brush against your leg(but not inappropriateley,just subtle).This is also a cultural thing,perhaps he's of
European decent.You'll truly determine this in another get together/date,etc..Hope you do get to know this fellow better and learn his personality,interests,goals and if there's
attractions,touching is normal..Just wait for the next invite,or perhaps you may suggest to meet for lunch.This is more casual than evenings,and see how he reacts,and I believe
you're going to discover if the connections are there for romance! I've dated many different type men,some are very affectionate from the start,will give a friendly kiss and hug on cheek,when seated close some will touch your forearm,or pat your knee(but not linger too long),others don't feel they should touch,until you're more intimate with more dates and a potential romance is evident..If you feel the touches are inappropriate,or two
aggressive,one usually knows.However it all depends on a persons background,if they're demonstrative or more reserved.. Best wishes,your Brit galpal,Bellina