Is he Interested? What should I do???
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| Mon, 06-12-2006 - 1:53pm |
ok guys,
So here's the deal... I'm confused about something that's been going on (besides the whole thing with my ex) - lol... Here's the story, please give your opinions:
I am 29 now. Back in high school, I hung out with a mixed crowd of all different guys/girls. One particular friend of ours, named Eli, moved away our last year of high school to California to live with his uncle. Eli and I had been pretty good friends, we used to ride the bus together and sit in the back and joke around alot, etc. I always had a little crush on him, but the thing was he was sort of "untouchable" in my eyes because he was always dating on and off with this girl (i'll call her jen for privacy purposes), who also hung out in our crowd and was friends with us. Anyway, long story short, fast forward to today. Over 13 years later, I see Eli on that website, myspace and out of nowhere we start talking on the phone. It was awesome! We spoke about everything, including jen. I talked to jen ONCE on the phone and she seemed to be under the impression that once he came home they would be getting back together. Well, Eli said something totally different. He said he only had interest in being friends with her at this point for a few reasons. She had left him a few times back in the day to be with other people, and also got married and had a baby with his best friend from back then. So it was just too much and too complicated and he didnt want to get involved. Sort of a "she had her chance" type of thing I guess. Anyway...
I guess I was also very excited about him coming home after he told me he had no interest in jen, and he seemed to want to make plans with me, and we did get together. We hung out 2 weekends after he came home, and we ended up watching tv at the end of the night, making out on the couch, almost doing other things. We didn't though. Then the next day I called him wanting to know what was going on with us, what he wanted, etc, and that seemed to push him away. I didnt hear from him again or speak to him for almost a month, so I pretty much wrote him off. I tend to come on too strong when it comes to that, so I figured I scared him off. Well, wouldn't you know it, out of the blue this past weekend I get a phone call from him saying basically he's sorry for keeping away, and I told him I thought I scared him away and he said "well, that's what I wanted to talk to you about"... he basically said he wants to try and hang out together and see what comes of it. He told me he had an awesome time with me and he'd like to take me out saturday (this saturday). I was really happy, but I didn't make it sound like too much of a big deal just in case. I just accepted. So later that day I text messaged him and said "it was very nice to hear from you again. I'm glad we're back in touch, we should get together soon". his response was "yes we should. ill call you soon, i'm at the gym". I never heard from him that night. Today is the day after and still no call. I'm worried. Am I making too big a deal out of this? I mean, I guess he wouldn't have called in the first place if he wasn't interested and didn't really want to get together right? What should I do? I dont want to seem too pushy/needy and I definately dont want to scare him off again.
Thanks

Carry in with your life, and let him come to you. He has to know you are a strong, balanced girl in order for him to gain that kinda respect and attraction for you. Yeah, coming on too strong is not a good idea. Don't contact him anymore. Stay casual. That is what will make him feel LESS pressure, and he might feel more comfortable with you that way. Goodluck!
PS: Protect your heart. Dont just jump into anything serious right now. We don't truly know what's the real deal between him and Jen and what he truly feels about you. So just get to know each other and take it slow.