He just stopped calling

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Registered: 05-11-2004
He just stopped calling
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Tue, 11-15-2005 - 2:20pm

I met up with an old boyfriend from 15 years ago. We had been talking for about 5 months and he came to see me. Everything was great. He talked about how beautiful I was and that he loved everything about me. We really hit it off. We talked everyday for a month sometimes 2 or 3 times a day. He was coming back to see me. One and 1/2 weeks before he was planning to come my phone got turned off for 4 days. I turned it back on and called him...no answer, he never called me back..never returned e-mails, sent me to voice mail when I called. Will not talk to me at all. And of course he never came in to town to visit. I am really upset and wonder what it could be? The phone? Why could he not at least tell me why he is not talking to me. I am really confused because when we did talk all he talked about was how awesome I was???

Any ADVICE?????

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 11-15-2005 - 5:29pm

What do you mean, your phone got turned off? Couldn't you email him in the meantime?

Did you explain to him what happened and why you didn't talk to him for 4 days?

Sheri

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Registered: 05-11-2004
Tue, 11-15-2005 - 5:51pm
I did send him e-mails in fact i e-mailed him 4 times over the weekend! I did explain.. He still did not respond.
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Tue, 11-15-2005 - 6:10pm
Sometimes people just do strange things for reasons we can't see. He either is more than a little rude....or dead.
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Registered: 05-11-2004
Tue, 11-15-2005 - 6:15pm
i know he is not dead because when I tried to send him an instant message he would sign off. He is just ignoring me and I have no idea why. It is really upsetting.. i guess he is just as rude as they come
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 11-15-2005 - 6:41pm

Thanks for the explanation. Yep, unfortunately, it sounds like he really is that rude.

I'm sorry you thought he was better than that. Some guys just aren't.

Sheri

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Registered: 04-06-2004
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 1:24pm
Unfortunately, many times when an ex wants to contact you again, they aren't attached to anyone else and want to find some attention in where they know to find it. If he knows that he can call you up randomly and get that female attention without the obligation of having a girlfriend.
Maybe just lay low for a while and let him contact you again. But don't let your heart get too caught up in him.
Hope this helps :)
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Registered: 12-23-2003
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 5:05pm

That's the problem with WORDS... that's all they are.

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Registered: 05-11-2004
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 8:19pm
Thanks for your advise. I figured it was the phone being cut off. It was cut off on thursday and I got paid that friday, but had to wait until my check posted to turn the phone back on. Things happen and I was hoping that he would not be so shallow. No matter what I take care of my bills and would never burden them on anyone. I guess he just does not care and wants someone who does not have these temporary problems. That is what I assume now.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 11-17-2005 - 1:43pm

If the reason for his silence is that your phone was turned off for 4 days (which you later explained) then he really is someone who you don't need in your life. And that he's not giving you the courtesy of an explanation is also troublesome and indication of how he might treat you if you got more deeply involved.


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