Is He Just Trying To Get Me In Bed?

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Registered: 07-28-2004
Is He Just Trying To Get Me In Bed?
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Sun, 11-28-2004 - 9:33pm

Hi everyone,

I really need some opinions & input here...

A guy that I met last week gave me his number, so I called and asked him if he wanted to get some coffee. He right away agreed and came out for coffee with me. We met up and have coffee. He already had dinner plan later on that night with his friend so we only had one hour or so. I was a little upset but of course couldn't blame him for that since I asked him at the very last min. We talked about things, his/my work, where we are from and so on. Very nice and interesting guy. The thing is that he talks about coming up to my neighborhood next time or up to my apt. He'd say something like, "We should have a lazy night and watch a movie at your place" or "I'd like to see your neighborhood." Since I wasn't sure why he said something like that so soon, I just nodded. We don't know each other basically at all. I wouldn't let him come up to my place after one hour conversation. He's a musician and travels a lot. Although he really lives in the same city, he goes out of town quite often. He told me that he'll only be here for another three weeks this time. After the one hour talk, he left the coffee shop and he goes, "Keep in touch, all right?" We hugged and aparted.

So now, all those points make me to think whether he's only looking for "some fun" or not. What do you guys think? Do you guys have experience like this?

If you can give me your opinions, I'll be very appreictated. Thank you!

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Registered: 11-10-2004
Mon, 11-29-2004 - 5:17am
Hello sunshine,
Bellina Fair here! Well I know this type fellow,musicians are charmers,usually worldy
and have been around many females. Take caution,despite you're coffee date,and pleasant
conversations,attractions,etc.,I'd suggest somewhere a little less intimate than you're
place.When you've gotten to know his character,thru more chats,discuss mutual interests,
careers,hobbies,friends,have a comfort level,and of course physical attractions,with
given time,then I'd invite him to your place.In the past,I was swept off my feet by
a vegas tribute artist (Elvis),in Vegas,he was in a headline show on the strip.After
the show he'd come out and chatted with fans,(like Elvis).Being I was in my mid20's
young,fool for handsome men and singers. He had asked me to wait til after all the fans left,got my phone #,rang me,we talked for an hour.Turned out to be a QA man for Good year tires prior to his singing gig in Vegas,had lots in common,as I began job in Quality Assurance for a design shop,etc..We had shared backgrounds,English,German,relatives
resided in same small town in North England,even knew the exact streets.We kept seeing
one another,he was divorced,no kids,uncanny resemblance to the younger Elvis (in his
mid 60 movies,like Viva Las Vegas, Blue Hawaii,etc. His humble,sweet,intelligent,fabulous singing voice(again like young Elvis),I was really swept away. We dated for nearly five months,but his being on tour across country with his show,my new art career,time was not dedicated enough.Our 'love me tender feelings' became so cooled and suspicious minds became the sentiments. While he had a 3 week tour on a major cruiseline for the Bahamas,he wrote to me,said he was scared of falling too hard for me and it seemed like his prior failed state of the hearts in previous marriage. He said he didn't want to hurt me by the long tours expected of singing career,etc,and couldn't make commitments now,like marriage.We'd been contemplating this,he expressed ove,but claimed due to his show schedules it wouldn't be fair to us.He'd had a real possessive exwife,who'd even gotten a P.I. to follow him ontour.!I was angry that he'd ever compare me to her,feelings of hurt,less alone time,gave us cooler intimate times.All I can say is be careful,perhaps he's a musician with less groupies,as my "Elvis" love,and has his feet more firmly planted for a relationship with you. Follow your heart,just take things slow. Best wishes, Bellina