He left.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2003
He left.
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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 9:44am
The guy: 30, was in taking his first year finals of law school and

was due to leave the day after his last final. He was going on

vacation for three weeks to Asia with his father.

Ok. Met up with this guy that I met online and we hit if off.

I found him both attractive and interesting. So we had a nice first

date.

He asked me out for a 2nd date. He took me to a lovely restaurant

and then we went dancing. Had a blast.

He wrote to me promptly after the 2nd date. I initiated the 3rd date

by saying "Perhaps we could meet up again before you leave for the

other side of the world". He said he'd like that and wanted to know

what my schedule looked like cause his was rather full. We went out

on our third date this past Sunday. Another great dinner.

He writes to me the after the date and wanted to know how I was and

told me that I was "delightful company".

Ok, that was Tuesday early afternoon. Never heard from him again and

yesterday (Thursday) he got on the plane and left for Asia. No see ya

later, no goodbye, no maybe I'll call you when I get back...NOTHING!

Was I written off? I know we weren't in any kind of relationship but

it just seemed normal that one would say 'good bye'. Was that it?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-23-2003
In reply to: cholymelon
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 10:30am

I don't think you should be too concerned.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cholymelon
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 10:32am
Did you wish him a safe & happy trip? Did he say anything in his email after the 3rd date about getting together when he returns?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2003
In reply to: cholymelon
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 10:41am
No I didn't wish him a safe trip cause I had sent an email

Tuesday evening wishing him good luck on his final. I figured

we'd do the 'good bye' 'safe trip' thing on Wed or Thurs morning

but that never happened. And, no, he hadn't mentioned getting

together upon his return.

So are these bad signs then?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2004
In reply to: cholymelon
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 10:48am
Okay, well in my experience (I'm not 28) I have learned that men are not emotional creatures. And I would not take it as being written off. See he had his priorities before he met you and that was school and his trip. Well, you have to see men as little kids, when they get excited about one thing they can't see past that. I would not say all men, but the majority. So maybe, and this is just a maybe, he was so preoccupied with his life that he forgot. That does not make it any better. I can't recall from your posting if he was moving out of town or if he was just going on vacation for some time. But you do want to take into consideration in the future (if you deal with him again) that this is a flaw he does have. If he is overwhelmed by whatever is going on in his life, you might have to take the back burner. This is what I gather.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cholymelon
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 11:21am
The only bad sign I see here is your level of expectation after 3 dates. You did nothing to wish him a great trip yet expected him to prioritize and validate you before he left.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2003
In reply to: cholymelon
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 3:01pm

Hello cholymelon!