He let another man go down on him

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Registered: 08-19-2004
He let another man go down on him
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Fri, 08-27-2004 - 6:12pm
hi, my boyfriend of 5 months and I were a bit drunk the other night and he was dressing up in drag for fun for this art festival he is going to ( he's never dressed in drag before)and I jokingly asked him if he has ever had a gay sexual encounter and he said that once he let a male friend's friend go down on him. He said that the guy asked him if he could and he thought what the heck. He says this was way back when he was in his early 20s ( he is now mid 30s). He does love women and I always find tons of porn on his computer with women and our sex life is good but this admittal makes me wonder if he is gay! Can a man have another man go down on him just as an experimentation and that not make him gay? Where he comes from which is a European country, they are very liberal about sex and not as prudish as we are here in the US which is pretty puritanical when it comes to those things. Any input would helpe so much. He loves and adores me and I adore him as well but I'm afraid to get in deeper with him for fear he might come out of the closet. Please help! and thanks
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-11-2004
Fri, 08-27-2004 - 9:33pm
Why did you even ask the question if you were going to freak out at hearing the answer? It's very common for people to experiment a bit when they're young. It was a one time incident that was never repeated. It doesn't mean he's gay, and nothing about what he told you even has any real indication that he has any attaction to men at all. You have in fact already seen tons of evidence that he's quite attracted to women. What is there to worry about?
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Registered: 01-10-2004
Sat, 08-28-2004 - 12:48pm
elevated as you had said european countries are less prudish about sex. ther is nothing wrong with what i read about him having it done to him. maybe he experimented and now has it out of his system. he said it was 10 yrs. ago. i wouldnt be concerned.he was upfront about it with you and that was brave on his part.