He loves me but is he in love with me?

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Registered: 07-22-2006
He loves me but is he in love with me?
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Sat, 12-23-2006 - 12:53am
So my boyfriend and I have dated for a year...Things have been a bit rocky ( he thinks I am addicted to confrontation...in his world we would never fight or disagree..he hates it but we have disagreements that are minor with me just being silent when i am mad..he wants to talk it out when I dont' feel like it and it seems he just want to live in peace when I don't thin it's realistic) But for the most part things are great...he tells me he loves me all the time treats me special and we spend so much time together and never get sick and tired of each other. Anyhow....he's leaving to take a job in another country for 5 months...It's apart of his career and I just found out I might have Pelvic Inflammatory disease. While I was on the phone with him I couldn't tell him what it might possibly be ( I won't know for another 3 weeks) and it dawned on me I am afraid he will leave me and I don't know if he's in love with me. We talked about marriage once and he said he did think about it and I am the only women he he's ever considered having kids with but it's only because I forced him into it I think. he's a good man and I don't think he would lie but I don't think he knows what he wants. With the potential diagnosis that will effect my fertility I am just going crazy wondering what the future will hold and I don't know if I can rely on him. He seems to be in love with me but I think it's only because he's a super loving person by nature...His familyis just perfect and incredibly loving and he is a product of that ( hence the not liking fighting of any sort) I am afraid I will go crazy and start doing destructive things because of this fear...like dump him before he has the chance to dump me.This guy is able to get any women he wants and I'm afraid he's just going to pass me up for someone else. What do I do? It's so hard to have faith when you don't know if someone is in love with you.
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Sun, 12-24-2006 - 5:01pm
It is hard to say, based on your post as to whether he is in love with you. You are in a tough position. But, when you find out your diagnosis, and if you are still together, you need to tell him. I would wait until he gets back from his 5 month job stay and talk in person. By the way, how old are both of you?