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is he into me?
| Fri, 09-01-2006 - 5:33pm |
First off, there is a 12yr age difference. I am 37 and he is 25. I dont think age really matters, however, I do understand his age may show in certain respects. The times we have gotten together, it's great. He's very complimentative, always commenting that I'm fun, that he's having a great time. And then he wont call for days on end. I just dont get it. He's into me when we're together, but then he can go a week or two without calling or getting together with me. To me, that's mixed signals. What do you think? I am trying not to call him at all, and let him do it. Does that really work? A friend of mine says you cant call so that he'll miss me enough to call me. That's playing games, but if it'll work, I'll do it

Sounds to me like he's "into you" enough for a very casual relationship and that's it. Is that what you're looking for?
Sheri
That's not true, actually.
A man who is right for you is not going to be "scared away" because you express what you're looking for in a relationship, so long as you do it in general terms. I bet if you asked him though, he'd say something like, "oh I'm not really looking for a relationship right now".
As I said in my previous post, I think he IS interested, just not in anything more than a casual relationship.
Sheri
I think Sheri's right. This doesn't sound like someone who is looking to get into anything serious with you. He keeps his distance and doesn't call for days on end so you won't get the idea that there's any commitment. When you're together, you're having fun.. and he's hoping that's enough for you. And I hate to say it, but the age difference could be a factor for him.
If you want someone who wants the kind of relationship you do, you should probably move on.
Hi
You don't say how long the two of you have known each other. Have you spoken about the possibility of this becoming something more than casually getting together every once in a while? I'd say dont make a big issue of things right now (I get the impresision you haven't known each other that long?) but know that he may not be into developing a relationship right now. So when you are together I would have a casual conversation about aims, goals, etc.