Is he into me again?

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Registered: 09-19-2005
Is he into me again?
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Sun, 10-09-2005 - 12:49am

Last spring I dated a guy I work with briefly...he flirted for ages (the smile, the staring, the touch here and there, the, "can I help you with that?", and finally he asked me out). We dated for about a month and things slowly dwindled on his part. I knew enough not to get hung up on WHY, and I didn't..I moved on. BUT, here we are back at work for about a month now (we teach) and the flirting is starting up again (not as blatant, but I think it's flirting). It's the same..."call me if you need help that," the touching my shoulder when he makes a joke or is walking past me, I catch him staring, etc. So...is he into me again? Do men do this? (Change their minds?;-) I'm curious. I admit I still do like him, but I'll tell ya, if he wants to date me again he is going to have to work his rear off to get me to go for it again.

So two questions:

Is he into me again?

How should I handle this if he is? Is playing it cool (I've been pretty aloof with him) a good idea?

Thanks in advance to for any answers:-)

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 10-09-2005 - 3:10pm
how did it end before??? what were the reasons? if they were reasons that you can deal with and maybe decide to give it another try but be careful. I believe in second chances becuse God knows we all need them sometimes but make your intenetions and wants very clear with what you want from him. if he is willing to give it and try harder then another shot is not out of the question. how serious were the two of you before??
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Registered: 11-24-2004
Mon, 10-10-2005 - 1:59pm
It seems that he likes you. But I really think he just wants a casual dating relationship. If you want to give it a go, go ahead. But if things don't go to the next level in the future (they may or may not), and you feel you wouldn't be able to handle that, then you may want to not pursue the friendship.

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Registered: 09-19-2005
Mon, 10-10-2005 - 8:25pm

Thanks. Listening to your advice.

How it dwindled ( to the other kind responder). He wasn't calling when he said he would so I stopped returning his calls thinking he'd keep calling/chasing me (he didn't...that dawg!;-). It wasn't serious at all.