Is he into me so far?

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Registered: 02-24-2006
Is he into me so far?
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Fri, 07-28-2006 - 9:45am
Okay- So theres this guy I had been emailing with for about a month, I asked him out for a beer and we went. Had a good time talking/chatting for about 3 hours. He paid the bill- walked me to my car and gave me a hug. Next day he emailed and said he thought I was really cool, and we should hang out more. Then the next time we went out we went for dinner and drinks, hung out again for 3 or more hours, when asked if we wanted another beer by waistress he insisted I stick around longer. He paid bill again and hugged me good night. Then next day emailed him and said I had a good time. He told me that he is totally looking forward to having dinner/drinks or whatever we do next. That he would like to get together again. It seems like when we have hung out (and I know its only two times) that hes into me, listens to me- asks me questions, tells me things, laughs with me etc.
A few of my guy friends thought I shouldn't have gone on the second date with him. They thought that because after we went out again he was busy for the next week or so and then I asked if he wanted to get togther again- he said yes and would get in touch with me the next week, but by the next weekend he had not contacted me. So I emailed and we chatted back and forth again, but still no invite. So I told him I was not getting a good response for hanging out again. He said he was sorry and that he did not mean to give off the vibe, that he would 'honestly' like to get together again. So he asked when I was available and we went out....
I'm just new at the dates thing. Usually I end up in relationships with guys after hanging out as friends or a party or something and it just goes pretty fast from there. So waiting a week or two to hang out with someone I am interested in just seems like a long time compared to my past experiences I have always wanted to start dating someone by doing the 'date thing' but I am just not used to it I guess. Just made me feel like he wasn;t interested. But like I said when we did hangout, he seemed interested. Hes a nice guy- smart and kinda nerdy but very goofy kinda guy as well. Great sense of humor!
What do you think? I know I will just have to wait to see if he asks me to hang again...
Sorry so long
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-28-2006 - 1:31pm

It sounds like you got to the correct conclusion by the end of your post...yes, you'll need to wait and see if he asks you out again. But I would definitely not "prod" him into it like you kind of did the last time...let him take the initiative all on his own.

Sheri

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sat, 07-29-2006 - 10:04am
I totally agree. Let it come from him. Good luck
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