Is he nervous or odd?
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| Fri, 08-13-2004 - 5:19pm |
Here's the things he does:
He is very goofy and at times almost "manic" (for lack of a better word) in his IMs. He'll talk about silly things and just IM, then IM, then IM - phrase after phrase. And we are talking silly things such as how he drank 13 Mountain Dews and is now going to eat a box of Power Bars or ramble on about lunch and all you can eat buffets or tell me b/c I got in last I need to buy donuts. Of course in IM, inflection, tone and context are all gone so I guess I just am unsure if he is JUST trying to be funny or if he is kinda odd.
He has some bizarre emoticons - one that was a fish that said something like "hey sexy" and another that was a stripper looking woman that says "I like it when you type really slow". I am just totally squicked out by these.
He is a bit too familiar for my tastes for someone I have never met. He'll always call me some cutesy nickname (he's called me "hot rod" and the more inappropriate "baby" and "sexy".
How do I handle this? Or do I? Did I make a mistake giving him my IM or am I just being too picky and judgemental? I realize too that this all comes out of context and you are only hearing the bad, but I honestly cannot think of a normal conversation that we've had!! It all is silly and immature and while I am not against fun, this is just a little too much for me I think. Any suggestions?

I generally don't IM with guys before meeting them, FWIW...I've found it's best to stick to exchanging a couple emails, have one or maybe two brief phone conversations then meet for coffee to see if you hit it off in person.
Sheri
P.S. If you have Yahoo Messenger, you have those emoticons also (they are called "audibles")...the guy I'm seeing and I use the fish one all the time ;-).
One other quick question for all of you tho. I HATE it when a guy just drops off the face of the earth and just stops communicating with me. I would just like a quick word of explanation. I know guys operate differently, but I feel to be fair, I should just send a quick double-blind email through the site saying "You seem like a fun guy (not nice, not great - I won't lie), but I don't think we are on the same page. Good luck in your search." Then close him, block him from IM and move on. It really is just b/c I want that same courtesy extended to me when they drop off - do you think that is OK?
Good luck with your baby Wendie!