Is he playing games?

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Registered: 08-23-2004
Is he playing games?
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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 12:33pm

I need someone's unbiased advice. I cannot believe I am almost 30 yrs old and asking these questions but please anyone???

I met a guy through the office who lives in another state. We instantly hit it off and he called non-stop for well over a month. We even spent an amazing night together when I was in his area for business. Well just recently, his calls have been less and less. I admit I've been playing by the "rules" and have let him do most of the contacting. He called last Friday to tell me he will probably be in town shortly and how excited he was. He called at least 4 times that day. He sent me a text message Friday evening and now nothing. I really don't understand and I am confused by his behavior? What should I do?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-16-2005 - 12:36pm

Did you take his calls on Friday (or return the call, if you missed him)? If not, he may have given up thinking you were no longer interested.

Sheri

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Registered: 08-23-2004
Tue, 08-16-2005 - 12:40pm
Yes, I took his calls. I admit, I ended the last call kind of abruptly because I had to get to bed... but other than that. He did send me a message the next via text message.
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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 1:31pm

And you responded to the text message? I'm just trying to ascertain if the ball is in his court or yours so far as communication goes.

If you did respond to his text message, there's nothing you can do except see if he calls. It's not that long since Friday. He probably doesn't see the point to calling all the time since you won't be able to see each other until he's in town.

Sheri

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Registered: 08-23-2004
Tue, 08-16-2005 - 2:19pm
Yes, I responded to his. I guess in the beginning, he contacted me so frequently that his communication lately has been less and less. I guess that's why it makes me question it.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-16-2005 - 2:24pm

That's not uncommon...only time will tell if the drop-off in communication is a sign he's losing/lost interest, or just a normal fall off.

Sheri