Is he on the rebound?
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| Tue, 06-15-2004 - 1:19pm |
The bad news is that he's going through a divorce. He and his (soon to be ex) wife have been legally separated since December. It sounds like it's pretty amicable, since he doesn't say anything negative about her and doesn't mind answering my questions about it.
I know that people make mistakes, and I'm not judging him or his ex. My concern, however, is that they've only been separated since Christmas--is that long enough for someone to get over it and start dating again? I really like this guy and he seems to like me. We were even talking the other day about it... he told me that he'd be a little nervous about dating a recent divorcee if he hadn't gone through it himself. I don't want to start something with this guy and then find out that he's getting back together with his ex or still has feelings for her.
Anyone else been through a similar situation?
-Bex

I'd keep it on a "platonic friends only" level *at least* until his divorce is final.
Sheri
My husband and I separated in October of last year... he started dating a woman he met on the internet two weeks after I left. They have been together since and because he and I have a good relationship we still talk. Anyhow, I asked him if he wasn't going a little fast with this because I hear wedding plans are in the making (our divorce was final one week ago) and he told me he just didn't want to be alone. I have to admit he's stupid for marrying someone just because he doesn't want to be alone but I do know that many relationships that begin after a recent breakup, don't last. I'm no expert nor do I pretend to be but I would say to you that you should take it slow and ensure that he is serious and this isn't just a rebound thing. No one knows his heart so he may very well be sincere, you know that or you will soon. Just my opinion. I do wish you the best of luck though.
I'm going to keep seeing him (because I really do like him as a person), but take it really slow and not rule out the idea of seeing other people. The last thing I need is to take on his emotional baggage or end up getting hurt myself.
Thanks,
Bex