He says it's not a game
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He says it's not a game
| Wed, 05-17-2006 - 3:39pm |
So, I've been seeing this guy and the other day I asked "what was this that we had?" and he responded by telling me that it wasn't just a game but he didn't want a serious relatioship right now. I didn't know what to say to that so I said nothing. Now, I don't know what I should I do. I like being with him, he's fun to hang with but I do want some kind of gurantee that he won't just sleep around with other people, regardless of how I feel. I want a relationship even if it's not that serious. Should I just tell him how I feel and risk losing him or should I just grin and bear it?

So you want a sexually monogamous relationship, is that right? There's nothing wrong with asking for that directly. Of course, even if he agrees, that's hardly a "guarantee"--he could be lying about not sleeping with other women, but that's a risk you take.
As for whether you ask for that or not, it depends on how important it is to you. For me, not agreeing to sexual monogamy would be a dealbreaker...but that's not the case for everyone.
Sheri
I agree, this man already answered her question. He doesn't want a serious relationship, which is another word for exclusive relationship.
Bail now.