Is He Still Interested???
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| Wed, 08-03-2005 - 12:47pm |
discussion title: Is He Still Interested???
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message #: 13722.1
from: southernbelle79
date: 12:29 pm
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Hey All!
I posted something on here a few days ago...but I just wanted to get some general advice on dating. This guy that I'm seeing is the first guy in the past year and a half since I've been single that has actually "dated" me and not just "hung out" with me. He is really very sweet and so far has done everything right. So, you're wondering what the problem is, right? Well, he has been busy for the past two weeks and I haven't seen him at all. He has called however. He was out of town 2 weekends ago and this past weekend he had family in town and was entertaining them. I should mention that we've only been dating for about 3 weeks. He calls about every 3 days. I spoke to him last on Saturday and he said we needed to get together next week after his family left. I agreed. We chatted for a while and he ended the call telling me he would call me soon. So, now it is Wednesday and still nothing. I wonder if I should call him since I have been letting him call me? I know guys need reassurance too, but he's been the one too busy to see me so I have been letting him do the calling. Would he make more time to see me even if he was busy if he was really interested or am I reading too much into it? Also, am I right to think that he should be the one to make the next call even though he has called me the last 2 times??? I appreciate any advice. Thank you and have a great day!

southernbelle79....
If you REALLY FEEL you should call him....go ahead! However...Pianoguy is puzzled by something that seems to be characteristic of a lot of men. Especially when they use the phrase: "we need to get together!"
Are men who actually use this line "REALLY SERIOUS?" Or is the phrase just a form of "reassurance" so the woman won't get frustrated by being put "on hold"...and will stick around a little longer?
Now it's very possible that your b/f IS pre-occupied with family and doesn't have a spare second to telephone you. So if you want to give him the benefit of the doubt...great!
But if your b/f has been "out of town" for the past couple weekends...do you suppose there's more than family on his agenda? Maybe it's work....maybe it's someone else?
Considering the fact that your relationship has only been in effect for 3 weeks, maybe it might be a better idea to "hold back on your desire to pick up the phone" and let him CALL YOU INSTEAD?
Pianoguy
Thanks for your advice Pianoguy. He honestly does seem to be a genuine guy adn trust me, I've come across many guys who are NOT. So, I've become pretty good at detecting the assholes. He was only out of town 2 weekends ago and that was to attend his brother's graduation. This past weekend, his sister was in town and I am sure he didn't want competing attentions from two women, esp. one he is just getting to know. So, I am not upset that he needed and wanted to spend time with his sister (she was staying with him), I am just the type of girl that needs a lot of attention and maybe he can't give it to me right now. I just wanted to clarify a few things. I am not making excuses for him, although I do like him and hope things work out. I am trying to give him the benefit of the doubt however, b/c he hasn't done anything to make me not do so.
But, I will hold to your advice and let him call me. That way I know he is interested and there will be no questions in my head.
Thanks again.