he still is in love with the ex....

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Registered: 03-25-2006
he still is in love with the ex....
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Thu, 12-07-2006 - 11:14pm

So I recently started seeing this guy everything was going well he is 26 and I am 21. we get a long really well and have a lot in common. On sunday he had dinner with his ex- fiance and it was because he wanted to give her the engagement ring back. She gave it back to him when things ended and he wanted her to have it. So we hung out monday night.. I had posted a bulletin after monday night asking for advice.. however since we hung out monday night he has been different. talks to me less, not himself. There has been a lot of things going on at work and I thought it was because of that. Not the case. My best friend asked him and he told her he liked me but was messed up because of the engagement that ended. He still isnt over his ex- fiance.. What do I do? I really like him and want things to work. He is a good guy and fun to be around. He was the one who ended the engagement. He told my friend he really likes me but he is just messed up from the ex.. Anything I can do or say... I really really believe it would work out for the best.

* I need all the help I can get.. Please someone tell me what to do?

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Registered: 06-08-2006
Fri, 12-08-2006 - 5:40pm

I think the best thing for you is to get on with your life and give him a little space. He can not begin a relationship with you until he is free (emotionally and physically) of the last one. I would suggest having a conversation with him and telling him just that. It will be hard to let him go through this, but he has to go through it if he is to move forward with you.

Good luck!
YG

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Registered: 12-08-2006
Fri, 12-08-2006 - 5:44pm
I know what you're going through. Except that my ex was still married and seperated from a 3 year marriage. Just like women, when men are recently heartbroken they are not good relationship material. Time will help, but don't let yourself get too attached to him right now. Because you will only get your heart broken in this situation. I can't tell you exactly what to do, but I can say that stepping back and not spending so much time with him will help him realize he either cares for you or doesn't. If you stop talking to him for a couple of days and he comes around then you know it might actually work. However, if you stop talking to him and he makes NO attempt to contact you, then you know he's too messed up to recieve your love. Good Luck honey!