is he testing me?

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Registered: 04-20-2012
is he testing me?
Sat, 11-03-2012 - 10:49pm

Hi, I'm going to try to be as clear as possible. I have a male friend who is also my personal trainer (kind of went hand in hand) and we've been friends for a couple of months now. Since we met, he has had really bad things happen in his life (death of a family member, very bad sickness). He is also ending a very bad relationship with his kid's mother. Lately, we've been flirting a lot, but nothing beyond that.

Today he helped me change the breaks of my car, and as we were driving around to buy the car parts, he looks at his cell phone and asks me if I noticed the picture in the main screen. I told him I hadn't, and he showed me the pic and told me that is his ex-girlfriend. I unconsciously shut down because I like him, and since it's not clear to me if there is a possibility of our friendship turning into dating, I felt jealous. On our ride back to the mechanic he asked me at what times do I shut down ( he is studying psychology, so chats like these are normal for us). For the rest of the day, he was being extra nice to me, getting me water, making sure I was comfortable etc. Since it was morning, we went to get coffee, and he offered to get me some, but at the register he looked uncomfortable and I ended up paying for my drink. 

My question is, is he testing to see if I like him by showing me his ex's picture or is it because he feels more comfortable with our friendship and wants to deepen that?

thanks